Sexual Sh!t Test.

[MisterSisterFister]

So I am seeing this girl and she has put me through some sh!t tests most I feel I do fine because it does not effect me as much any more. If anything it is silly and can not take most of them serious. But here is an example of one that swept from underneath me not that I lost my **** or anything but made me lose alot of interest.

She realizes she forgot her purse so before turning around we pull up to a gas station to which I reply umm did you not just say you forgot your purse? O yeah shoot I totally forgot to which she drives akwardly slow by the pumps (hoping I will break and buy her gas?) We get to the house get her purse and go back to the gas station now she is like so are you going to be a man and fill up my gas tank. I replied are you so helpless that you can not do it yourself? (keep in mind we were having some great conversation prior to this some of it had to do with femminist propoganda and what not but regardless she was open minded and it was great talking to her.)

Here is where I lose interest in anything she has to say.

She gives me a couple of kisses and realizing I am not going to fill her tank gives me a really sweet kiss and says. "If you did not have a couple beers and could drive I would totally of given you a ******* while driving home" steps out of the car and starts filling the tank.

I am not mad more just like really dum a$$ your gonna try to punish me with sex? So I have no interest in keeping convorsation with her as now she is just a stupid little girl like the rest of them to me at the moment.

Little later on I had turned up the music as I was no longer interested in talking with her, she asks What you do not want to talk with me anymore? Did you have something to say" I reply. Well no but (I turn the knob of the music back up smiling)

She gives it some time then turns the music down and starts going off on how she does not appreciate me interrupting her and whatnot about being rude. She said she did not know what happend we were having great conversation then I just stopped talking.

I said "well here is the deal, the moment you tried to control me with sex was the moment I was turned off. If your going to suck my d!ck then do it. If not don't waste my time with shoulda woulda coulda's. Now you just sound like a silly little girl."

Thats when it went down hill and she started spouting off all sorts of craziness and whatnot. But after much introduction do you think I handled it appropriately I am not so sure how to have handled this one?

 

[backbreaker]

damn bro tact how does it work lol.


I have zero issues with your rationale.. in fact it was flawless. you are exactly right, she's fillabustering. you could have looked at the gas station person the wrong way and she would have said that's why she didn't blow you. she never was gonna blow you beucase she didn't want to. In that sense you are 100% spot on.


However, you handled it in a situation that pretty much required her to go ape****. i mean think about it.. what can she honestly do after you called her out so blunty?

there is nothing you could have done on the date i don't see, but what i would have done if i were in the same position is just give her a 1-2 week vacatin from seeing her and spin ohter plates. if a girl is going to act like there there is no need to make a scene, just stop giving her carrots (your itme) and start giving her the stick (you being wtih other women who will blow you in the car).


in other words you are going to get much further with a woman, at least from mye experience, by letting them figure out that you don't approve of her behavior by not seeing her and by her realizing that you dont' have to play her silly games to get laid then you are by blowing up the spot.

i gurantee you that if you had not said antyhing and went ghost for a week she would know exactly why you did it. women aren't dumb they know what they are doing when they do it.

 

[vatoloco]

We get to the house get her purse and go back to the gas station now she is like so are you going to be a man and fill up my gas tank.

"Are you gonna be a woman and give me a blowjob here in the car?"

That's what I would've replied.

I'm not even gonna read the rest. This is immediate dumping/dropping in my book.

Do the right thing, bro.

 

[MisterSisterFister]

Yeah I figured my approach might have been to blunt ha ha. Ill just disapear for a litte bit and spin some more plates.

 

[MisterSisterFister]

There is alot! I have learned from this site. But I guess a couple of things I am still struggling with is the occasional frustration with the illogical rationale and Finding it hard not to just tell them what I am frustrated about. It still seems so weird to me that if I drop off she would automatically know what was wrong.

Not saying that I am not going to do this but even still my logical brain has a hard time proccessing this stuff some times.

But everything that has been advised of me here in the past has all work wonders so I will continue to follow.

 

[Colossus]

so are you going to be a man and fill up my gas tank?

I would never see her again after that purse/gas incident. I have a very low threshold for this sort of behavior though. There's a million women who WONT treat you that way.

It probably felt good at the time to call her out on her BS, but I've learned through countless battles that it's often better not to say anything at all.

 

[Who Dares Win]

If it wasnt for this site I would have been manipulated into that sh1t at least the first time.

And Im sure that if I were to tell a similar story to most of the men I know, their reply would have been "stupid idiot, you could have get a ******* if you filled up her tank".

It really takes an intelligence approach to deal with such sh1t and recognize new one.

 

[origin138]

If it wasnt for this site I would have been manipulated into that sh1t at least the first time.

I thought the same thing when I read this. In fact, I DID fall for that "are you going to be a man?" sh!t test/disrespect a few times in the past. Glad to know my current responses line up well with how the OP handled this. Nice work, Fister!

 

[st_99]

These types of situations are hard to come up with some great solution because a lot of it hinges on how you feel about yourself.

So if you think you have no problems meeting women, you may have just laughed at her or responded with "oh, thats interesting" when she said she would have blown you.

and the flip side is you may get pissy and worked up if you dont have that abundant mentality.

So, idk, i dont think there is any clear answer here. as usual, its more about you than it is about her.