"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hyper2010 said:
Any advice how I shouldplay my next move? Is no contact a viable option, let her know what she's missing??
You want to let her know "what she's missing"?

Dude,she ALREADY KNOWS what she's missing.


THAT'S WHY SHE LEFT.


And her "love you,but not "in love" with you" comment simply means she loves you as a person,meaning she doesn't want anything bad to happen to you,but she's not in love with you meaning having sexual attraction/chemistry.



Hyper2010 said:
Have I become needy and entered the ftiend zone?
Needy,yes. Friendzone,no.

You don't have to worry about the friendzone with this girl...EVER.


You've already had a relationship with her,already been intimate/had sex with her numerous times,so the friendzone is out of the picture. You have bigger fish to fry.



Hyper2010 said:
I've decided to ignore her anyhow, starting from now 4:35pm GMT. Very curious as to what will happen...
So you're going to try the good ole' trusty,never fails "No Contact" on her,huh? And what's that supposed to accomplish?




If you have a car that has some sort of mechanical problem,leave it parked in some location for 5 months,then return to it,do you expect the problem to have "magically" disappeared simply because of the time passed?



Unless YOU CHANGE something about YOURSELF,all the "no contact" in the world won't make a difference.



Go ahead and try it. Give it a week. And at the end of the week,you know what the result will be? I do.


You'll just be a week older.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Pastor Igetit!, on point as usual.
 

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OP, it's absolutely, positively 100% over. The only thing for you to do is to move on. She's waiting for you to officially end it so she doesn't have to.

Wish her well with MINIMAL, emotionally detached words, and move on and improve your life. Read the DJ bible and the Book of Pook.

The past does not have to equal the future. You have everything because you can change and improve. All you need to do is to recognize your dire need to change. We've all been there.
 

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No contact is not about ignoring her bro. You have to cut all ties with her. That means MOVING OUT. The problem is she doesn't have any respect for you. You think acting like a passive aggressive little girl is going to change that? No, be a man and a real man would not stand for that sh!t.

The only chance to gain her respect back is to move out and not contact her again. If you don't after she's said all these things to you, there will be nothing, no respect at all and believe me, she will cheat on you, leave you or both.

I'm one of the people here that advocate a more laid-back, sometimes even compromising approach, but this is just ridiculous man. You still have to respect yourself and stick to some core principles.
 

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Hya. Quick update on situation, took the advice and manned up and moved out into my own place. Situation soon turned around after I started dating other girls, and now she's ringing and texting constantly. I dont mind this, but i was wondering, is there not a rule about talking on the phone?? Is it actually even a good thing that she's ringing??
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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WHY do you F&CKING care? SHe tossed you OUT and you are worrying about her calling? Her bigger better deal didn't pan out,so she's trying to see if you are available...for a fall back boyfriend.She'll take you back,just to dump you again[when she finds the next one she wants to date].OR the b1tch wants to see if she still has the power to reel you back in.
 
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