"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hi guys,
Just a quick question for you all; Me and my partner have been together for about 9 months, and I've noticed that our sex life has gradually decreases into non existance. I always make the move, and whenever i do she tells me shes tired or dosent feel like it. I mean i understand how it inevetably decreases over time somewhat with any relationship but I cannot help but wonder why she never wants it. She has confessed she has played woth herself etc when im not there... could I be being to eager? Should I abstain from making the move for a while?? Any advice would be much appreciated...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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i swear you or someone else posted this exact question worded exactly the same way before.

troll?
 

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It all about how you make a woman feel.

do you guys live together?
 

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Hyper2010 said:
Hi guys,
Just a quick question for you all; Me and my partner have been together for about 9 months, and I've noticed that our sex life has gradually decreases into non existance. I always make the move, and whenever i do she tells me shes tired or dosent feel like it. I mean i understand how it inevetably decreases over time somewhat with any relationship but I cannot help but wonder why she never wants it. She has confessed she has played woth herself etc when im not there... could I be being to eager? Should I abstain from making the move for a while?? Any advice would be much appreciated...
Just say "Fine you play with yourself while we break up and I go out looking for sex. Plenty of fish in the sea. See ya."

If you're a troll, funny stuff.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yes we do live together, but we work in different counties so I sometimes stay away for a few days during the week
 

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When you live together, there's little you can do to change things quickly. I suggest you move out, citing you need your own personal space and time to think about the relationship. Spin plates because she definitely won't be happy about you moving out/might even drop you. When she learns to appreciate you, then pick back up with the relationship but don't move back in.

Never move in or allow a women to move in with you, no matter how comfortable the relationship is.
 

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Besides what AAA said, you should also mix things up sexually for he. She probably gEts bored. Do you foreplay with her? If not, that could help.

And don't ask for sex, just go in slowly and grab her. Command her without words. She needs to see that your the sexual man in the relationship. Remind her why your together in the first place.
 

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Diaforetikos said:
Besides what AAA said, you should also mix things up sexually for he. She probably gEts bored. Do you foreplay with her? If not, that could help.

And don't ask for sex, just go in slowly and grab her. Command her without words. She needs to see that your the sexual man in the relationship. Remind her why your together in the first place.
Solid advice here.

If that doesn't work you may consider turning the disinterest back on her and cease the inititiations. If neither of this works you probably should consider moving on cause if that's the way she's gonna be she has either lost interest in you and or isn't worth your time anymore.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Just a quick one...

Went to see her today and after she admitted having no respect for me, I asked if she still loved me?

Her answer was 'I don't want to answer that question'

Any ideas what that means??
 

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Hyper2010 said:
Just a quick one...

Went to see her today and after she admitted having no respect for me, I asked if she still loved me?

Her answer was 'I don't want to answer that question'

Any ideas what that means??
It means you are single.
 

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You think its that final? If so why did she not give a straight up answer
 

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MYSTERY SOLVED.


This "sexual mystery" you were speaking of....it was about your girl not wanting to have sex with you,right? In fact,it got to the point where she'd rather touch HERSELF sexually than have you touch her.


Well mystery solved. And it was she HERSELF who provided the answer for you right here......
she admitted having no respect for me,


No respect,no sexual attraction. Just that simple.



And her response to you asking her if she still loves you.....come on man.



A woman in love will GLADLY proclaim it. Not only in words,but in her actions as well. There shouldn't be any hesitation about answering that question if you two have been together for a long period of time.



She said she didn't want to answer your "do you still love me" question.


Dude,I'd be out the door. If she cringes or pulls away everytime you try to have sex with her,FREELY ADMITS to having no respect for you,IS UNWILLING to answer whether she still loves you or not,and would rather touch herself for sexual pleasure than have you touch her,well dude,what else do you need?



ALL OF THAT coming from her,and you SERIOUSLY ASKED this question.....
If so why did she not give a straight up answer



A straight up answer,lol? What else does she have to do to make you understand that dude,she's just not that into you?



If you still try to be with her after all she's said and done,then I can see why she has no respect for you.
 

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Any advice how I shouldplay my next move? Is no contact a viable option, let her know what she's missing??
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Any advice as to how i should play my next move? Is no contact a viable option?
 

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Hyper2010 said:
Is no contact a viable option?
It's your only option, if you still even have a chance, and the probability of that isn't too high.

Move on.
 

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Tonight she told me that 'she loves me, but is not in love with me' ...Any ideas what this means??
 

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I've decided to ignore her anyhow, starting from now 4:35pm GMT. Very curious as to what will happen...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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