Sexual Harrassment

[Rebound Material]

So, last week during finals I got into a little debate with this one chick about sexual harrassment. It was brought up because I caught a glimpse of the packet she was studying dealing with the issue. It started off with me saying that most of the time when a girl calls a guy out on sexual harrassment its usually BS. She then accused me of being a "certain" type of guy that they learned about in class. I told her that MOST of the time, a guy usually thinks "oh, she's cute/hot, im gonna go flirt with her." and that it isnt "oh, she's cute/hot, im gonna go and SEXUALLY HARRASS THE CRAP OUT OF HER.". I basically said that if the girl doesn't let the guy know that what he's doing isnt making her comfortable, thats HER fault because c'mon now...unless you were a complete sick pervert, you would stop immedietly because you're actions are only taking you the other direction with this girl right?...So again, my arguement was, if the girl doesn't let you know that your kino is making her uncomfortable through obvious body language or straight up verbally, in the guys mind it says "oh, she likes it...this is working!". Just wanted to know what you guys think?

 

[DJDamage]

Its not sexual harrasment if she likes you!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UERd1EgwiEo

 

[Rebound Material]

Its not sexual harrasment if she likes you!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UERd1EgwiEo

NICE hahahaha. and oh so very true.

MissGrape, youre right...but I guess this applies to those CLUELESS guys that will never get the hint.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

If you're not getting a postive response from them you're getting a negative response..

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Yeah but men will never stop doing that..at work or at school you're just asking for trouble but in public you can't regulate **** like that.

That's like outlawing unwanted eye contact..

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

...most of the time when a girl calls a guy out on sexual harrassment its usually BS. She then accused me of being a "certain" type of guy that they learned about in class. I told her that MOST of the time, a guy usually thinks "oh, she's cute/hot, im gonna go flirt with her." and that it isnt "oh, she's cute/hot, im gonna go and SEXUALLY HARRASS THE CRAP OUT OF HER.".

I'm sure that most guys don't approach girls with the intention of harassing them. However, a lot of guys just don't seem to notice when they've crossed the line. Rarely will a girl flat out say "You're sexually harassing me, please stop." No...if you're bothering her, she'll avoid looking at you, avoid talking to you, try to keep a physical distance, etc. Also, what constitutes as harassment depends on the girl. For example, I'm a rather passive person (I'm improving, but the fact still stands), and for a long time just men checking me out was sexual harassment and overly invasive. Of course, I just accepted that men will always check women out (duh), but that just goes to show you that a lot of women consider it harassment if a guy stares at her breasts or makes jokes about her butt, etc. To a guy that's flirting, but to some women it's crossing the line.

I must say that I HATE it when guys honk their horn at me or catcall out their windows while driving. They're probably trying to make me notice them or lamely attempting to show their "alpha" persona from the comfort and safety of the passenger seat of their minivan, but really.....it's just disrespectful and makes women feel really, really awkward, embarrassed, and violated. You'd think we'd consider it a compliment that someone would honk at us, but it's not, it's really not. It makes us feel like pieces of meat or something like that. (Insert generic witty comeback here.)

The bottom line is that most women won't tell you you're harassing her unless you've REALLY REALLY crossed the line. Just pay attention to what kind of feedback you're getting from her.

 

[Dongfu]

Even worse, never argue with a lesbian with a double major in Law and Psychology. Ha

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

Even worse, never argue with a lesbian with a double major in Law and Psychology. Ha

Where did I say that I was a lesbian or interested in Law/Psychology. I gave you a solid, honest opinion, there's no need to devalue it.

 

[mintxx]

Hahahaha!

and i forgot, yelling rude comments at her and whistling is also sexual harassment if you did not already know this, but its important because that is the type of action that may lead to a law suit

OH MY GOD what country do you live in? A law suit?! You know that means suing someone for damages right? I have almost finished a law degree and I have never come across something like this? Although I heard there are some states in the US that have a strong mormon influence in their legislative schemes... who knows. JESUS FVCK!!

 

[MacDiddy]

It makes us feel like pieces of meat or something like that. (Insert generic witty comeback here.)

.... but you are a piece of meat.... with all due respect of course.

why don't you post us a photo of yourself.. let us see whether its worth our while...

 

[Rebound Material]

.... but you are a piece of meat.... with all due respect of course.

this foo......LOL.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

I'm sure that most guys don't approach girls with the intention of harassing them. However, a lot of guys just don't seem to notice when they've crossed the line. Rarely will a girl flat out say "You're sexually harassing me, please stop." No...if you're bothering her, she'll avoid looking at you, avoid talking to you, try to keep a physical distance, etc.

Yup, there would be some sort of body-language.

Also, what constitutes as harassment depends on the girl. For example, I'm a rather passive person (I'm improving, but the fact still stands), and for a long time just men checking me out was sexual harassment and overly invasive.

You mean men checking you out for a long period of time, or for a long time you believed that guys looking at you is sexual harassment? what do you mean by long-time child?

Of course, I just accepted that men will always check women out (duh), but that just goes to show you that a lot of women consider it harassment if a guy stares at her breasts or makes jokes about her butt, etc. To a guy that's flirting, but to some women it's crossing the line.

It shows that you think that way, and maybe some others. To some women it's crossing the line when it's done by someone they are not attracted to. But if it's some hot popular stud, celibrity or someone very important, those same hypocrities will welcome it.

I must say that I HATE it when guys honk their horn at me or catcall out their windows while driving. They're probably trying to make me notice them or lamely attempting to show their "alpha" persona from the comfort and safety of the passenger seat of their minivan, but really.....it's just disrespectful and makes women feel really, really awkward, embarrassed, and violated. You'd think we'd consider it a compliment that someone would honk at us, but it's not, it's really not. It makes us feel like pieces of meat or something like that. (Insert generic witty comeback here.)

Again, you are just a typical girl that's stuck up on herself and very insecure inside, but for some reason I dont hate you, welcome to sosuave.

The bottom line is that most women won't tell you you're harassing her unless you've REALLY REALLY crossed the line. Just pay attention to what kind of feedback you're getting from her.

So, how many REALLY's before the girl files a complaint, I guess that would be four or five then, right?