DonJuanWannabe
Don Juan
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I am going to give it to you guys straight. I am a 21 year old virgin, a black male with a babyface, who's stands at 5'10'' and weighs 150 lbs. I have no idea where I stand on the physical attraction scale. I catch girls checking me out from time to time, but for the most part, girls ignore me. I am a quiet guy most of the time, but I can be social when I need to be. I've been on this site for almost four years and I have received only meager results.
Only recently have I been somewhat successful with the ladies. Last month, I hooked up with two random white girls at parties (I think my game is better with white girls). The first hookup, I was drunk and so was she. I was also able to defeat her ****blocking friend by seducing the target into staying with me for a couple of more dances (and makeout sessions). The second one, we were both sober, but as we were making out, I abruptly abandoned her and took off to the library because I had mid-terms to study for (stupid, I know). Both girls were about a 7.5 and I didn't need wingmen or social proof to get things done (my friends either have girlfriends or they don't have the balls to approach women). However, ever since then, I haven't been able to hook up with any girls. I suffered a horrific rejection two weeks ago at a bar and I haven't really recovered since. So ends my momentary game. I'm not too concerned about losing my virginity right now, especially to a girl I don't know (probably should have got that over with with my only girlfriend in high school), but I still want to be able to mess around.
Meanwhile, there is this one black girl that I am interested in for more than just a hook-up. She is definitely relationship material: attractive (all the time), very intelligent, has a challenging (but not b!tchy) personality, and doesn't seem self-absorbed like most women I run into. I think she might be attracted to me also but I'm not quite were I want to be yet. I am about to graduate college and I still haven't found a job (I do have some interviews coming up). Basically, I don't really have anything to offer her (or any girl for that matter), so I don't want to face the chance of getting hurt.
However, this is not a case of one-itis, mind you. I am still hitting the party scene and looking to hook-up but my game is pretty weak. My initial approaches are pretty cold but my grinding and freaking techniques are not that good enough to keep the females interested long enough. How can I fix this? How should I approach the girl that is relationship material? Should I even bother? Or should I just concentrate on the game? If so, how can I improve my game? All input is much appreciated. My desperation level is rising exponentially and I know women can smell it because I am constantly checking out EVERY girl I run into! Something has got to be done about this.
Only recently have I been somewhat successful with the ladies. Last month, I hooked up with two random white girls at parties (I think my game is better with white girls). The first hookup, I was drunk and so was she. I was also able to defeat her ****blocking friend by seducing the target into staying with me for a couple of more dances (and makeout sessions). The second one, we were both sober, but as we were making out, I abruptly abandoned her and took off to the library because I had mid-terms to study for (stupid, I know). Both girls were about a 7.5 and I didn't need wingmen or social proof to get things done (my friends either have girlfriends or they don't have the balls to approach women). However, ever since then, I haven't been able to hook up with any girls. I suffered a horrific rejection two weeks ago at a bar and I haven't really recovered since. So ends my momentary game. I'm not too concerned about losing my virginity right now, especially to a girl I don't know (probably should have got that over with with my only girlfriend in high school), but I still want to be able to mess around.
Meanwhile, there is this one black girl that I am interested in for more than just a hook-up. She is definitely relationship material: attractive (all the time), very intelligent, has a challenging (but not b!tchy) personality, and doesn't seem self-absorbed like most women I run into. I think she might be attracted to me also but I'm not quite were I want to be yet. I am about to graduate college and I still haven't found a job (I do have some interviews coming up). Basically, I don't really have anything to offer her (or any girl for that matter), so I don't want to face the chance of getting hurt.
However, this is not a case of one-itis, mind you. I am still hitting the party scene and looking to hook-up but my game is pretty weak. My initial approaches are pretty cold but my grinding and freaking techniques are not that good enough to keep the females interested long enough. How can I fix this? How should I approach the girl that is relationship material? Should I even bother? Or should I just concentrate on the game? If so, how can I improve my game? All input is much appreciated. My desperation level is rising exponentially and I know women can smell it because I am constantly checking out EVERY girl I run into! Something has got to be done about this.
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