Sexual frequency: do I have a problem

[hansol]

Hi guys,

So I'm in an argument with a plate regarding sexual frequency. Long story short, she insists that I'm broken as a man haha. Typically I like to bang once or twice a night, then sleep, then work hard for the next few days til I'm horny again, then bang, etc. I'm not nor have ever been a marathon-sex-every-night kinda guy.

So she hits me with this one night after she wants to go for round three and starts stroking me, and I don't even get hard because I'm really not all that interested. She tells me that this has never happened to her before, that everyone she's been with has always been ready to go at the drop of a hat, whenever or wherever.

I asked my peer group, and they all said "No man, if you're not feeling it, often your junk won't work. Same **** happens to me" blah blah blah. So I felt okay, cool, it's not just me. Then she texts me after I guess she had a conversation with her friend, being told that the friend and her boyfriend "Typically have sex 2-3 times a night, twice in the morning, then throughout the day." I questioned whether that happens every day, and apparently they said yes.

So I'm running around here feeling like damaged goods now, and that maybe I need to see a doctor or something. Like I said, my "cycle" seems to be one of 2-3 days rest, then a night/morning of 2-3 times banging, with maybe a weekend of 4 times, and an occasionally quicky here or there. Then throw in the fact that if I'm not feeling it, it's hard for me to get an erection... I mean I'm in my mid-twenties, so I don't think I'm "broken" or anything...

I guess the only reason this came about finally is because I typically only see the girls in my life maybe once a week for a booty call because I'm horny. This chick and I have spent a few continuous nights together, so obviously it would happen that one night I would probably not be feeling it and be more concerned about work or whatever than banging.

Thoughts?

 

[backbreaker]

you're girlfriend is retarded. at least in this instance. **** man my wife and i might have sex 3 times a week. that's a good week. and it's not beucase she doesn't put out man i got **** to do i can't spend half my day ****ing. the day my wife tells me where such and such ****s this often something is wrong wtih you is the day i tell her to pack her **** and go **** so and so, i'm not the one. i don't give a **** how often they **** they aren't me, they dn't live my life.

to me a person woh has to have sex that much is a red flag. i have a lot of red flags lol but they come from experience. i got too much **** to do, lol ****ing twice in the morning you know what that tells me? someone isn't going to the gym lol. i run a business hwo the hell can i **** throughout the day do you know how much of an un life you have to have to be able to "**** all throughout the day"

I'm not even so much mad that she wanted you to have sex and got pissy, that happens. i'm mad that she went and had a ****ing tribunal with her friends over a pretty private issue beucase you wouldn't' **** her one times like you are just a robo **** or something lol. My wife and i are serial sex people, we either don't ****, or we **** like rabbits, there is no in between, so if we have sex, it's usually like 2-3 rounds and i'm drained and i might get up a little later the next day (i try to time sexy time the day before my off gym day and on the weekends) . if i got something to do the next day she better roll her ass over lol.

that really just rubs me the wrong way. i'd

 

[The Duke]

As I've gotten older my sex drive has decreased. I'm a 1-3 times a week kind of guy. And my girlfriend complains too.

I'd bet that your girl feels like you aren't attracted to her or aren't that into her which is why she is making a big deal about it. She probably isn't going to come out and say it either(lol, silly women). Once she understands that less frequent sex doesn't mean you don't feel anything less for her, then she'll be more content.

 

[st_99]

Then she texts me after I guess she had a conversation with her friend, being told that the friend and her boyfriend "Typically have sex 2-3 times a night, twice in the morning, then throughout the day."

ummmm, no. lol.

 

[scrouds]

Biitch her out for being a cuunt.

 

[hansol]

Thanks guys. It's funny how you can swing from being so certain of something, then suddenly start doubting yourself and thinking you're broken and ****.

 

[jonhaul]

I was with my nympho ex ex girl friend of mine gave me too much sex I could only handle two times a day! She even asked me why I dont initiate it I told her I am happy I get enough! Hell she used to suck my **** just to get it in her! It aint fun when you are tired out and it dont really feel so good for you no more. I was 22 at the time but damn I do not want a crazy creep like that again! It hurted to piss because she wanted so much SEX. Lots of guys think it be great to be with a sex crazed gal and let me tell you ITS NOT!

 

[backbreaker]

I was with my nympho ex ex girl friend of mine gave me too much sex I could only handle two times a day! She even asked me why I dont initiate it I told her I am happy I get enough! Hell she used to suck my **** just to get it in her! It aint fun when you are tired out and it dont really feel so good for you no more. I was 22 at the time but damn I do not want a crazy creep like that again! It hurted to piss because she wanted so much SEX. Lots of guys think it be great to be with a sex crazed gal and let me tell you ITS NOT!

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when i was 21 i once ****ed the same girl what... i say 10 but seriously.. a good 6 times in the same night. and she wanted more. she mad my ass quit lol. i said look you are testing my manhood but babe i you have literally ****ed me to death. the only time i ever called in sick for work, i couldn't get out of bed

 

[hansol]

Aaaaaand I just got the "I'm done with this. Sorry" text tonight. I don't know whether to be bummed or relieved haha.

 

[Slickster]

Tell her, "sorry babe, you need to work harder to get me turned on."

See how far you can push her. You may be in for some freaky shyt!

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Hansol,
You are normal believe me.....In my experience you might consider the following factors...
Firstly:the The amount of Work you do particularly hands on Physical stuff that includes gym too...
Secondly:do you indulge in Alcohol?
Thirdly:How aroused does she make you?...
Fourthly:do you spin Plates?...
Fifthly:do you Sleep enough?......
Sixthly:Are you overweight?....
If you can afford the time and Money,a Viagra pill,best split in the mouth will put lead in a Brass Monkeys pencil.....With the added bonus that you will get another naughty if you can pin her down in the morning....
Less effective are 50 Mg Zinc tablets every day+four Vitamin B's...
Lift heavy weights every Day...But I come back to repeat my original statement,you are absolutely normal!

 

[backbreaker]

"babe even god had to take the 7th day off. and I ain't god"

 

[jonhaul]

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when i was 21 i once ****ed the same girl what... i say 10 but seriously.. a good 6 times in the same night. and she wanted more. she mad my ass quit lol. i said look you are testing my manhood but babe i you have literally ****ed me to death. the only time i ever called in sick for work, i couldn't get out of bed

Damn you screw my Mississippi queen when she was a KID! Or you were the guy she cheated on me with when I was away for two weeks. Thanks for keeping her vag happy man I appreciate it. I feel sorry for the rebound guy she met two weeks after me and the doormat married her LOL... :crackup: Come on out to Missouri again soon pal ill give you a BEER!

 

[muscleman]

How hot is she?

How new is she?

Both are important.

The 2 hottest girls I've slept with (girl #44 and my stripper ex), I could be hard and fvck them all day long. With #44 we would go on for hours to the point where it was interfering with getting normal life stuff done. It was that bad/good.

On the other hand, girls who aren't as hot I don't feel like boning that often.

Perhaps this plate you're with was used to dating guys to whom she seemed extremely hot (by comparison to previous experience) and so she's surprised you don't find her attractive.

Now, there are 2 other explanations:

1) Your sex drive is just lower that some guys. From what you say, it's still perfectly normal, but just not super crazy high. Testosterone levels have a lot to do with it.

2) If you get used to having a lot of sex frequently, you start to want it more frequently (like an addiction). If you're used to it sporadically, you're ok with it sporadically. This is normal too. Unless I find a really hot chick, I might only get laid once every 2 weeks or so with a new girl. It doesn't really bother me. I'm not big on keeping plates around if they're not 7.5+.

You're fine. It's not her fault, it's not your fault, just a difference of desire. You're actually in a pretty good position as she may work harder to be sexier for you.

 

[Greasy Pig]

My refractory period varies and this chick I'm seeing gets p1ssed when I'm not ready for round two after like 20mins.
I nearly kicked her out last weekend when she started b1tching but after a couple of minutes she got on her knees with a mouthful of ice cubes and blew me to climax.
Just remember, women have no idea about male sexual physiology. They just think men walk around with constant boners and that they would fvck mud just to get a load away. Not the case!
My chick is fvckin sexy but I usually need at least an hour before I'm back to full readiness.
And Scara, I took a full Viagra recently and it did fvck all. Maybe it was fake? I got it off a mate who swore it was legit.
Is it possible for it to simply not work on some men?

 

[zekko]

Aaaaaand I just got the "I'm done with this. Sorry" text tonight. I don't know whether to be bummed or relieved haha.

Be relieved. At least now you can get some rest lol.

If I had a girlfriend who expected me to bang her six times a day every day like the example in the original post, hokey smoke I would show her the door myself. Even putting the physical demands aside, come on, there's more to life than fvcking, I've got other things to do. I don't care if she's the hottest chick on the planet, she's not that much of a priority.

 

[st_99]

Like most things in life, the reality doesn't match the fantasy. The last girl i was totally hooked on to the point of borderline insanity, I had to bang at all cost and nothing was going to stop me... I could picture banging this girl 10x a day in my delusional mind. So sure enough my determination made it happen and i finally got her in bed. So what was my reaction after just 1 time having sex with her...?

"Huh, that was kind of lame." LOL.

 

[JulieWatson31]

We give them as much or as little sex as we want to give.

They should be grateful.

 

[EastWind]

Don't hurt over this, my guess is that you were not THAT attracted to her. It happens to me with girls that I find attractive, but not "OH MY GOD" attractive. I just get bored after the first or second time, then I can go for a few days before I get excited for sex again.

Also, I find that girls have very different ways to get a man back going, and most of them suck. Women who have no understanding of how male attraction and sexual excitement works think that just by being there, the guy should get a hard-on. The truth is that once we're done with the first orgasm, we tend to realize the girl is mostly annoying. It's very rare to meet a girl where everything clicks in a manner to make you really want to keep her around after you're done.

And since she was just a plate...

Seriously, she's just an idiot with unrealistic ideas about how male attraction and excitement work. You could write back something about how she just fails at getting you horny again. But it would look like a kid lashing out in self-defense because of a hurt ego. Just be glad she's gone.

 

[MisterSisterFister]

I think you let her grab the frame with this one. You took it too seriously and analyzing what she said way too much. Women are illogical creatures she probably took offense thinking you were not attracted to her so what do women do when they get defensive, lash out in strange and illogical ways.

What you should have done is made it into some sexual game. Teasing her eating her out getting her super wet and horny and then realizing you had some pressing matter to attend to. Get it done then sleep. Repeat and except for this time f*ck her brains out and give her a mind blowing orgasm.

Then you have control and everytime she wants sex she has to earn it from now on whether by cooking for you or laundery and she sounds like she wants it. So all you have to do is give her more and more chores and reward her with sex.

Sounds like a perfect sex slave to me.