SexPDX's take on "Think About Something Else Besides Women"

[SexPDX]

It seems like a good idea but I worry sometimes about the way this is interpreted by some guys on this board. It is usually given as advice to a guy who posts about his downtroddenness and frustration over what some chick said or did. It's a good idea for women not to be the only thing in your life but at the same time I would hate for this to be used an excuse to ignore an issue because it is too painful for the individual to confront the problem head on so he therefore feels the need to simply think about something else, anything else but what is making him feel bad.

Before you decide to focus on something else think about exactly why it is that you feel that way. For example, if you examine the true source of your feelings and you conclude that you are insecure about your attractiveness, first of all admit that to yourself. Second, think about what could happen that would cause you to believe you are a more attractive person. Then you think, "okay, I will work out more, I will dress nicer, I will get a haircut, I will buy a nose hair trimmer" whatever it is. Don't just make a snap judgement to think about some arbitrary thing X, Y or Z just so that you are "not focusing on women". Be decisive and constructive about it.

Also, when you do things to correct fear, insecurity, low self-esteem or whatever feeling it is that is causing you problems with women don't subsrcibe to the egotistically dense notion that women have NOTHING to do with why you are doing these things. Admit that you are trying to become more attractive to women and that is part of why you are doing it. It's a normal desire to want to be attractive to women, isn't it? Why not be honest with yourself about it?

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- The performer known as Nick

 

[djmanagement]

True enough!

I find it all comes down to being happy with yourself.

If you rely on someone else to make your life better you're taking a gamble. Beting on yourself is a guarantee because you deal the cards you want in order to win.

 

[andresdj]

please help SexPDX ! I read your opinion about The System on the Discussion Forum and I have been thinking the same way about the 'lack of attraction' that the system has.....
can you recommend THE 'ONE' BOOK that has worked for you ? (besides experience)

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[CaliMike]

Good stuff as usual Nick.


Andres: I've never bought a book, the system, or paid for any information. I'm making big changes in my life based on my interpretation of free information, my own experiences, and the experiences of others on this board.

I would highly recommend that you read through the Bible (the link is at the top of each page). It's got a ton of great information on virtually every topic. After that, use the search function on the site to find information specific to topics you have questions about. And if there is nothing relevant in the searches, then post (in the Discussion section) and most likely someone will be sure to reply.

 

[Drow]

Good tip.

One of my favorite quotes.
"The unexamined life is not worth living"

You should always take time to examine and evaluate your life, the good and bad. I Try to take time every night (or day) to see what I did. Was it constructive? Could I have done it better?

Your mind is your most powerful tool, use it.



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You are what you make your self.

 

[oreo_renegade]

and another thing, i dont remember who wrote the post "giving off teh sexual vibe" mayb it was u? lol

neway, u hav to think about women, to make it work.



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"... I'm tensed a bit,
and tempted,
when I see the sins,
my friends commit,
I'm infinite... "-EMINEM