"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
sex without condom!! BE HONEST
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
seabreeze
Master Don Juan
Can you explain to me how taking BC pills is not taking every precaution against getting pregnant? If the pill was that ineffective, do you think millions of women would be putting their health at risk to take them? We'd just go back to the old days and rely on spermacides, IUDs, and condoms. It's been proven BC PILLS WORK! Yes, there is less than 1% of women who do get preganant EVEN though they were taking them correctly. Yes, there are people who die in car accidents even though they are wearing their seatbelts. The way you guys view BC pills is tantamount to a person being too afraid to get in the frickin car!!!!
Dude, I'm wearing my seatbelt, I'm just enjoying the ride...
SB
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penkitten
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well this flame is very low and uncalled for.
unless i nexted you in a previous life for some bigger vikking dude with a bigger sword and ship, i think you owe me an apology.
are you mad at your mother for something?
seabreeze
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Shortimer,
YES! Apologize ass breath.
SB
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Now, onto the post...
Tried it once. It was...Different. Too close a call though for my taste on the pull out at the end though. I'll stick to the rubber raincoat unless the shot is taken.
seabreeze
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That makes sense, Eternal. But you keep it in after the shot don't you? The shot is the same as BC pills.
SB
Since I've never tried it with her on the shot, I wouldn't know yet...It would all depend on the moment.Originally posted by seabreeze
"I'll stick to the rubber raincoat unless the shot is taken."
That makes sense, Eternal. But you keep it in after the shot don't you? The shot is the same as BC pills.
SB
I realize it's a BIT like the pill, but it's one less thing to go "did you remember to take it today?"
penkitten
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actually i was told today that the shot is going off the market due to the side effects. have you heard anything?Originally posted by seabreeze
"I'll stick to the rubber raincoat unless the shot is taken."
That makes sense, Eternal. But you keep it in after the shot don't you? The shot is the same as BC pills.
SB
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i did the shot back in 94. i got three shots and i bled every day for nine months and got off it. i was tired and lost down to 80 lbs and was so moody.
then i did the shot in 98 . took three shots and the same thing happened until i reached down to about 75 lbs.
my middle two children were born premature and they dont know why but my mother believes it was from the shots i got in 94 because it thins the lining of the uterus to prevent pregnancy implantation. well she said maybe it thined it so much that when the babies got to be a certain size by uterus just couldnt hold anymore.
the fourth baby started coming early and by the grace of god she wasnt a premature birth too.
im not sure if they really took it off the market or not, if anyone hears let me know.
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There hasn't been anything on the news about it. I would think if they decide to take it off the market it will be big news -- like front page USA Today and Wall Street Journal type stuff.
penkitten
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hmm it was a resident that told me , she said her daughter who is in med school told her . i dunno
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Maybe they are thinking about it but haven't done it yet... or something.
Lots of girls are on the shot though, I would hope they wouldn't keep it a secret if they decided they shouldn't take it anymore.
penkitten
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perhaps there is just talk about itOriginally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Maybe they are thinking about it but haven't done it yet... or something.
Lots of girls are on the shot though, I would hope they wouldn't keep it a secret if they decided they shouldn't take it anymore.
i did hear them talking on the radio today about how that new pill that you only have four periods a year is just weird and that it could really confuse a womans body. who knows about that one either
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
seabreeze
Master Don Juan
So, I've been using the pull out method for all of these years until now. But, the pill just seemed like the most responsible choice for me right now.
Damn good discussion!
SB
penkitten
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a mother of five in my apartment complex who got her tubes tied about 8 years ago is expecting again. her tubes grew back together .Originally posted by seabreeze
Yeah, I don't know about the shot stuff and the other 4 period pill. My doctor tried to get me to do the patch, but I said no. I've heard of too many side effects from them too. I said the most I'd do was a low hormone dosage pill. She said it would do the trick. I was nervous as hell cuz it's the first time I've been on them since about 16 years ago. And I was only on them for about six months then.
So, I've been using the pull out method for all of these years until now. But, the pill just seemed like the most responsible choice for me right now.
Damn good discussion!
SB
seems like sometimes you just cant do nothing huh?