Sex without any feelings

[BraddH]

So recently broke up with gf and been having sex with hbs. I would say physically at least a 9. My ex was a solid 8.5 and when she put effort..at least went up to 9.5.

Thing is I was in love hard. Now Sex with hb nines are nothing compared to the feeling I had with my gf. But there is this chivk, a hb 8.5 that I am connected also on the level of feelings, kinda reminds me of my ex, she can make me feel pretty much satisfied but those nines are starting to feel like waste of time. What so I do at this time? Fall hard for this hb 8.5 so I can forget my ex completely or keep them fbuddys but it will probably be hard for me to get over ex fast.

 

[Brighty]

Do what you think is right. Random people on an internet message board can't always correctly gauge your feelings and determine what's best for you. As you get older you start to realize that looks don't matter as much (naturally, of course they still matter, but gone are the days where I'd be 21 and pick a 9 over an 8 even if the 9 was terrible in bed and had an incompatible personality). If she makes you feel happy then go for it. Simple as that. I know, it's hard to get over an ex, and the easier way to do it is to fall for someone else. Whether you want to do that at this time is entirely up to you. If you feel you should play the field more, then play the field more. If you like this girl enough to try and develop things, then fvcking do it. It's your life, and you shouldn't let anyone who doesn't know you on this forum dissuade you (in this scenario, naturally).

All I know is that doing the whole "friends with benefits thing" is like communism... great in theory but shyt in practice. Eventually one of you will start to develop feelings for the other and it will ruin the friendship/fbuddy. My best advice to this is to never fall asleep with each other, especially after having sex. That's absolutely the quickest way to develop feelings for both parties included. Been there, done that.

 

[expos]

So recently broke up with gf and been having sex with hbs. I would say physically at least a 9. My ex was a solid 8.5 and when she put effort..at least went up to 9.5.

Thing is I was in love hard. Now Sex with hb nines are nothing compared to the feeling I had with my gf. But there is this chivk, a hb 8.5 that I am connected also on the level of feelings, kinda reminds me of my ex, she can make me feel pretty much satisfied but those nines are starting to feel like waste of time. What so I do at this time? Fall hard for this hb 8.5 so I can forget my ex completely or keep them fbuddys but it will probably be hard for me to get over ex fast.

If you want to get over your ex, it will not be by sleeping with bunch of random hot girls, you will need a legitimate relationship to do it and kill those feelings.

I've been there. I had sex with two girls, neither of whom were relationship material, post breakup and the feelings for the ex don't go away. A five year relationship doesn't dissolve over 15-30 minutes of intimacy. In fact, they made me feel worse. The sex was mechanical, void of all thought and "love". I would drive home the next morning and be thinking about my-ex and memories of her.

I would get rid of the HB9 if I were you. Don't worry about breaking her heart, she's hot and will always have options. The HB8.5 is a better investment, she makes you feel good, why are you waiting?

 

[European-DJ]

The 'fvck ten other girls' is, in my opinion, not to be taken literally: the thing is, you have to keep yourself occupie with something else, and by the time you have layed 10 other girls, you will either have found a new one like your ex, or at least the pain won't feel so intense!

You could do a rebound, i have found out it is what helps me the most, so try it, experience it, and then you will have learned it for your next heart brake; believe me, there will be more.

 

[Epimanes]

^----- this is truth right here (expos post that is above the one above). But don't follow your heart .. Instead lead it to that of which you desire. Don't waste time on women that you don't have strong feelings for, your only degrading yourself. At least that's what I think. Go and persue this woman that brings out the best in you. Post haste!