Sex With The Ex?

[Faldero456]

I want to hear what you guys think.

Sex with the ex? Does it have any good points? Are you just stalling your game? Is it woth it? Are you just getting laid or are you hoping for more?
Is it just a stress relief?

Would love to hear opinions and stories.

did it help, hinder or serve no purpose?

Faldero456

 

[Skyy.]

It's amazing, but will hinder your detachment. If you are emotionally and mentally detached, keep fvcking her while you generate options.

Also, accept that you might not the only one fvcking her.

 

[EastvsWest]

Yeah I want some opinions on this. I had a mutual breakup about a year ago do to different wants/needs (kids, living together, marriage) But she contacted me a few months back and wanted to be friends. (found out she was having a really tough time recently) It's been TOUGH but I am trying a bit...but I can see things heading into this zone. I know it will bring back the emotional connection and you know what? I have no idea if I want that or not?! All other chicks have sucked in the last year! I really think it's the no current options thing getting to me. If I had 2-3 spinners right now I would be fine, I think...

 

[Paintballguy]

If you are fairly sure that you can remain emotionally detached, then by all means go for it. Just be aware that it can rekindle emotions and set you back on the process of getting over her. Plus, you might be tempted to get back into the relationship which is a stupid idea because there was a reason you broke up in the first place.

 

[WoodB]

I have made this mistake several times. Each time, I have fooled myself, only to realize after rounds of bedroom gyrations it was a grand mistake of monumental proportions. Emotional and material complications always arose, and I found myself somehow diminished.

 

[fuko2007]

i would say from a standpoint of doing it right now it has pros and cons. Pro: we can have sex and hang out as friends no lovey crap inbetween. Con: old emotions slowly come back. Skyy made a very good point to wich sort of mixes with mine. Remember yall are not in a relationship. Neither you nor HER are tied down. So one night when you want to fvck and text her or call and she is "busy" with another guy more than likely be ready to supress those old emotions and feelings. If you dont think you can best to avoid it man, other than that spinn plates. i have two back up girls incase she is busy.

 

[speed dawg]

I think we all know, near 100% certain, that there WILL be an emotional connection with the ex. She'll reel you back in, chew you up, and spit you out. So the safe answer is NO, don't go back to her, even for sex. We've all been there, and it's not worth it. Not to mention things like accidentally getting her pregnant and being stuck with her, then she'll leave you and you'll be stuck in family courts and ruining a kids life in the process.

I fvcked an ex of mine some years ago. About 4 times in one night, and drenched her face in cvm. I thought it would make me feel better, make me feel empowered, etc. It didn't. All it did was keep me wanting more and get me more strung out emotionally over her.

Steer clear. My advice, take it or leave it.

 

[Cremasta]

It can be done, but emotional attachment is always a threat.

I found one way to avoid that was to only go and shag the ex just before you have to do something else.
For example, if you are meeting some friends at 4pm, then head over and do her at 3pm. That way, you're not going to be hanging around for ages after the deed, possibly exposing yourself to deep and meaningful conversations about why you broke up and why you should give it another chance.

 

[SecondHalf]

Risky.

I've done it. I felt great for a day, but the setback certainly was there. More risky still if the sex was great (which most partners achieve).

Maybe you may be able to keep emotionally unattached, but there is a risk that she won't. If you had a cordial, respectable breakup, you risk losing that. If she ends up back in love with you and wakes up to find out for you it's nothing, she'll likely hate you for it.

Would never touch that again.

SH

 

[Colossus]

I think we all know, near 100% certain, that there WILL be an emotional connection with the ex. She'll reel you back in, chew you up, and spit you out. So the safe answer is NO, don't go back to her, even for sex. We've all been there, and it's not worth it. Not to mention things like accidentally getting her pregnant and being stuck with her, then she'll leave you and you'll be stuck in family courts and ruining a kids life in the process.

Absolutely.

Like he said, we've all been there. I was there as recently as a year ago. I was in a terrible spot in my life, was lonely as hell, and reached out to her. We ended up fvcking, it was incredible, and I got emotionally tied in knots over the B!TCH I dumped 3 months prior. It was a huge mistake, and only made my life harder.

The thing about exes, is that they are exes for a reason. Furthermore, once you have been split up for a while you can be assured that she has had one or more partners, and that will fvck with your head. So not only are you jumping into this emotional spiderweb, you are putting your d!ck into another man's recent sloppy seconds. Your EX-gf is now tainted with other men's jizz loads, AND you are wrapped up in her emotionally.

BAD place for a man to be. Celibacy is better than disrespecting yourself.

 

[Warrior74]

These guys nailed it. Not worth it. I did it recently. She figured out quick I didn't give a fvck. Throws her new boyfriend in my face. Saw I didn't give a fvck about that and has been a bytch ever since. Still don't give a fvck.

 

[fuko2007]

Example: im seeing the ex right now. Talked to her yesterday and for some odd reason she threw out there that she told this guy "not a threat" that she would go out of town with him to a concert. Now we all know hat will happen...there will be drinks then the hotel room and then fvcking. Im sure she threw it out there as a **** test. I said ok have fun. Then it was i may not go, i really dont want to. My response? "Go have a good time, im going to do what i do regardless anyway". So i established the fact that she knows im not getting sucked into her b/s and if she wants to go bang this dude with a Small D...go ahead. I only know this bc she told me about the little problem one day after we had fvcked. But the moral to the story is dont get attached agin.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Falderido,
Sure have Svex with whoever takes your fancy...She will be happy as she is used to you...Is it such a big deal?

 

[Faldero456]

I was looking for other perspectives. I had sex with the past ex. She was looking to get back together. I was looking to get laid. We messed around a few time and I moved on.

I guess it depends what you are looking for.

Faldero456

 

[Faldero456]

Everyone here is spinning plates to get laid.

Playing the game to get laid.

Getting laid with some emotional conection is much better than banging some random ***** who you don't really know.

Next day will have you thinking one way or the other.

Faldero456

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Faldero,
"Getting laid with some emotional conection is much better than banging some random ***** who you don't really know."....Fair enough!...But there are people like me who believe the emotional connection comes after you screw them!