"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sex with the chick, now how to proceed

boynamedsue

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yeay, my first post. a friend recomended me this site and ive been looking and reading on this forum for a long time now and this site is great...

now i have my own situation. Ive been dating a girl off and on for a long time now. we just got into contact recently. shes mentioned that shes loving the single life, meeting different people and such. we decided to see eachother last night. she cooked us dinner last night and we watched a movie. on the couch i initiated some kino which she did not deny, however she still didnt seem receptive towards it. she kept saying we shouldnt do it, and i know thats why you came over. needless to say we had sex. awesome sex. weird thing though, even though she came 3 times, she said she felt nasuea. im hoping it was from the food.

here is where i need advice/ feedback. in the past, when we had sex she wanted me to stay the night. last night was not the case. in addition to her saying we shouldnt have done it, the nausea, and the not wanting me to stay the night is this all bad?? i mean we did have sex; thats got to be a good thing right? (in terms of her liking me) unless she was just horny. is there a way i can find out how she sees me without asking directly? does she see me as fb, potential ltr, or nothing?

and please not reponses about oneitis. i am very happy being single and have been single for over 3.5 years. thanks guys
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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sodbuster

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Sometimes they play that game to see if you "care about them as a person" instead of a lay. Or she's dating someone else. Who knows,but chances are 50-50-you are done with her.
 

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Who initiated this recent contact ?
 

boynamedsue

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We both have been in contact but this recent meeting was me initiating it. She offered the dinner and me the movie
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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