"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sex With Non Hot Chicks?

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Right now, even though I don't cold approach (much), there are tons of girls who want to hook up with me or be my girlfriend just through normal social circles, work, organizations, etc. Some of these girls are cute to average, not really super hot. My motivation to hook up with them as a result is fairly low priority, although this means, with the absence of very hot chicks in my small town, I'm not getting any action.

Do you guys just say forget it, this girl's kinda cute, let's do it? I want to feel a strong motivation to be with a girl, not just a sense of obligation.

There is a hot girl gaming me right now, but for some reason, it just bores me to tears whenever I talk to her.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A girl should always stimulate the mind just as much as the body.
 

betterthandead

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Sex indeed is a mental thing. Having sex with a girl that you don't mentally click with is like masturbating or having sex with a prostitute (difference being that one is smarter with money.) I've slept with a 8 rating girl and a 4 rating girl. I didn't feel jack for them so sex was practically the same even though one was hotter than the other. Although I felt more guilty breaking up with a 4 girl than an 8 girl, it's probably because I knew that the 8 girl can pull any guy easily.

I haven't met a girl that I fancied on the inside yet, if I did I wouldn't even be here.
 

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Bang who or what ever you want. Who cares? God forbid you bang some one who is below a 7 :rolleyes: If they get your wang up, that should answer your question. After all, who are you having sex for? Your self or some one else?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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im in a similar situation. im only into 9's right now. there are plenty of 6.5's available to me right now(not bragging) but its like.........i could bang a 6.5 and afterwards feel like i just jerked off. or just jerk off and not risk getting like d!ck warts or something. u feel me guys? or is it just me?
 

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I normally don't get too agressive or flame anyone on here, but who do you guys think you are. I mean you are on a forum about improving your life, but also about how to score with chicks. So no matter how many chicks you "THINK" or suspect your could be sleeping with that are 6.5, chances are you kidding yourself unless you are very experienced with women already, otherwise you wouldn't be on this site.

So stop whining and being keyboard jockey's talking about how many 6.5 and below women you could have and go get them as well as many hotter ones. Because if you can get a bunch of 6.5 girls, I am sure you can score with some hotter ones too.

Now I am on this site too, so I am not criticizing your for visiting the forum or degrading the boards in anyway. But you guys need to be out there scoring with every chick that gets your **** hard. I am not saying you need to spend countless hours gaming a HB5, but if they are easy for you guys to pick up as you say, then you should be having sex every night.

Guys should rate girls on the binary code system, not 1-10. It should be a 0 or a 1, with a 1 meaning "Yes she turns me on in any way". Any orgasm is going to be a good orgasm, is there ever a time when it wasn't pleasurable. So just remember the old cliche saying of "sex is like pizza, even when its bad, its still pretty good.

Think of it this way too, just because you are having sex or talking to a HB6.5 doesn't mean your missing out on a HB9. Sure if you have the oppurtunity with both then go for the HB9, but more often then not, the HB6.5 are going to be easier to get and more plentiful, and then just pick up HB9 when you can.
 

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PlayToWin said:
I normally don't get too agressive or flame anyone on here, but who do you guys think you are. I mean you are on a forum about improving your life, but also about how to score with chicks. So no matter how many chicks you "THINK" or suspect your could be sleeping with that are 6.5, chances are you kidding yourself unless you are very experienced with women already, otherwise you wouldn't be on this site.

So stop whining and being keyboard jockey's talking about how many 6.5 and below women you could have and go get them as well as many hotter ones. Because if you can get a bunch of 6.5 girls, I am sure you can score with some hotter ones too.

Now I am on this site too, so I am not criticizing your for visiting the forum or degrading the boards in anyway. But you guys need to be out there scoring with every chick that gets your **** hard. I am not saying you need to spend countless hours gaming a HB5, but if they are easy for you guys to pick up as you say, then you should be having sex every night.

Guys should rate girls on the binary code system, not 1-10. It should be a 0 or a 1, with a 1 meaning "Yes she turns me on in any way". Any orgasm is going to be a good orgasm, is there ever a time when it wasn't pleasurable. So just remember the old cliche saying of "sex is like pizza, even when its bad, its still pretty good.

Think of it this way too, just because you are having sex or talking to a HB6.5 doesn't mean your missing out on a HB9. Sure if you have the oppurtunity with both then go for the HB9, but more often then not, the HB6.5 are going to be easier to get and more plentiful, and then just pick up HB9 when you can.
what about diseases?
 

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Now I know that there is the possibility of diseases, but the media and society way, WAY over hype them to scare the crap out of everybody. I admit that you have to be safe, and should always were a condom regardless, but even if you didn't you would probably be fine(assuming she is on the pill)

I personally know 2 guys who are very successful PUA's. One has slept with almost 50 women and about 25 of them without condoms on at least once if not multiple occasions and he has never had any signs of STD's and has been fully tested 2 times and came back completely clean both times.

The Other guy has slep with probably 30 women and used condoms with most but not all, and also has no signs and tested completely free of STD's a year back or so.

Many of these girls these guys slept with were even ONS's with club girls. Which besides prostitutes is probably the riskiest to get to diseases from. Basically most of the studies that show STD rates are at least slightly inflated numbers, and sadly most of the diseases are concentrated in urban, ghetto, minority low income areas. I am not trying to put down that demographic, its just stating a fact.

So sure I am not saying go out there and have unprotected sex, but if your wearing a condom and you not having sex with some coked out *****, then you should be plenty good to go. There will always be a risk, but there is a risk in even going to a club cause you could get shot, or get in a car accident leaving from a drunk driver or something stupid. So be careful and responsible but don't be paranoid about diseases.
 

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PlayToWin said:
I normally don't get too agressive or flame anyone on here, but who do you guys think you are. I mean you are on a forum about improving your life, but also about how to score with chicks. So no matter how many chicks you "THINK" or suspect your could be sleeping with that are 6.5, chances are you kidding yourself unless you are very experienced with women already, otherwise you wouldn't be on this site.

why is it hard to believe that we could bang 6.5's. how r we kidding ourselves? condoms dont stop hpv and genital herpes. thats the point. a 6.5 isnt worth me getting a fvckin wart on my d!ck!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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PlayToWin said:
Now I know that there is the possibility of diseases, but the media and society way, WAY over hype them to scare the crap out of everybody. I admit that you have to be safe, and should always were a condom regardless, but even if you didn't you would probably be fine(assuming she is on the pill)

I personally know 2 guys who are very successful PUA's. One has slept with almost 50 women and about 25 of them without condoms on at least once if not multiple occasions and he has never had any signs of STD's and has been fully tested 2 times and came back completely clean both times.

The Other guy has slep with probably 30 women and used condoms with most but not all, and also has no signs and tested completely free of STD's a year back or so.

Many of these girls these guys slept with were even ONS's with club girls. Which besides prostitutes is probably the riskiest to get to diseases from. Basically most of the studies that show STD rates are at least slightly inflated numbers, and sadly most of the diseases are concentrated in urban, ghetto, minority low income areas. I am not trying to put down that demographic, its just stating a fact.

So sure I am not saying go out there and have unprotected sex, but if your wearing a condom and you not having sex with some coked out *****, then you should be plenty good to go. There will always be a risk, but there is a risk in even going to a club cause you could get shot, or get in a car accident leaving from a drunk driver or something stupid. So be careful and responsible but don't be paranoid about diseases.
did you personally check your friends d!cks to see if they were disease free? not trying to insult you. but how do you know they're totally clean? condoms dont stop hpv and herpes.
 

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If you can get your pecker up for her, obviously she's hot enough to get you excited. Don't let the stigma of sleeping with a "non hot" girl stop you. If anyone makes fun of you, just know that you're getting laid and they probably aren't.

An old Bloodhound Gang lyrics comes to mind:

Aw, what do you know? You're probably going home alone
And it wouldn't be the first time that I gave a dog a bone
 

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connor32 said:
did you personally check your friends d!cks to see if they were disease free? not trying to insult you. but how do you know they're totally clean? condoms dont stop hpv and herpes.
Hmm, I do believe that I mentioned in my post that they were tested at a doctor's office, not just by sight. I know that the results were negative on everything because I am very close friends with them, and one of them just got a girlfriend and she knew his past, so they both went and got tested. They both came up comepletely clean.

I can't believe your logic is that you would be willing to risk your so called "high odds" of getting HPV, herpes, or another disease as long as she is a HB9 or something. I mean so on one hand your saying that the risk is high enough that you want to avoid HB6.5's, yet your willing to throw you health to the wind so as long as she is hot enough to be a HB9. I mean if anything you think it would be other way around. The HB9 are the ones that are always getting hit on and having the most sex for the most part. So they should be higher risk.

Plus these HB9 are most likely having sex with mostly attractive alpha males who are probably scoring with plenty of women, since if you can pick up HB9's then most likely your picking up women consistently. So if you going to worry, then the HB9 are the ones that are much higher risks considering they probably have had many partners and their partners have had many partners.

So I am failing to see your logic on why you would rather have your hand then a HB6.5 because of diseases, yet will throw the disease fear out the window if she is a HB9.

Not to mention yeah HB9 obviously are attractive thats why they are HB9, but it doesn't necessarily mean she is good in bed or not, so sometimes a HB6.5 could and can be more enjoyable then a HB8 or 9.
 

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connor32 said:
why is it hard to believe that we could bang 6.5's. how r we kidding ourselves? condoms dont stop hpv and genital herpes. thats the point. a 6.5 isnt worth me getting a fvckin wart on my d!ck!
But a hb9 is?

No girl is worth me getting an std, but I'm not going to join the monastary just because the risk is out there.

I'd rather be dead than only holding out to fvck a virgin hb10 who has been inspected by the state of MA and has papers saying she is clean.
 

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someone always has an excuse for something. IF she makes you hard, what more do you want to know?? An STD is an STD. You think people will like you more if you got and STD from a model than a hooker?? YOU STILL HAVE AN STD lol
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DarkShade

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For some folks, sex is about making the other person feel good, not about being totally selfish and think sex is just about shoving your pole into a hole. The mental aspect of getting someone else off like they've never felt before in their lives is enough to stimulate the mind, even if she's only average in all areas.

Sharing that experience (as long as your safe about it) is more sensual than a date with Palmela Handerson and Hand Solo.
 

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Define hot,9-10,sure,those are the chicks that make my **** hard,but I think there are plenty of average chicks who I think look good,those should be the ones I should try for. I am not picky,don't have extremely high standards,my problem is lack of confidence,and effort. My mind is locked in this mental state always,I am trying to break out of it.
 

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Hmm, I do believe that I mentioned in my post that they were tested at a doctor's office, not just by sight. I know that the results were negative on everything because I am very close friends with them, and one of them just got a girlfriend and she knew his past, so they both went and got tested. They both came up comepletely clean.

I can't believe your logic is that you would be willing to risk your so called "high odds" of getting HPV, herpes, or another disease as long as she is a HB9 or something. I mean so on one hand your saying that the risk is high enough that you want to avoid HB6.5's, yet your willing to throw you health to the wind so as long as she is hot enough to be a HB9. I mean if anything you think it would be other way around. The HB9 are the ones that are always getting hit on and having the most sex for the most part. So they should be higher risk.

Plus these HB9 are most likely having sex with mostly attractive alpha males who are probably scoring with plenty of women, since if you can pick up HB9's then most likely your picking up women consistently. So if you going to worry, then the HB9 are the ones that are much higher risks considering they probably have had many partners and their partners have had many partners.

So I am failing to see your logic on why you would rather have your hand then a HB6.5 because of diseases, yet will throw the disease fear out the window if she is a HB9.

Not to mention yeah HB9 obviously are attractive thats why they are HB9, but it doesn't necessarily mean she is good in bed or not, so sometimes a HB6.5 could and can be more enjoyable then a HB8 or 9.
my logic is that there are plenty of 6.5's to fvck. at this point in my life (after my last girlfriend) my standards have gone way up. sleeping around with a bunch of chicks that are just ok doesnt give me a sense of accomplishment. if im not really into a girl (hb9) it's almost not worth it to me to even talk to her with the intent of fvkn her. i'm not saying im better than anyone else. im just sayin for me there is nothing better than being with a really hot chick that blows my mind. i know people that will fvck any pig just to nut. these people dont impress me at all. on the other hand i know guys that have really high standards. these guys, coincidentally, are people that i admire. they are men of quality........and your theory that hotter chicks are more likely to have std's is, im sorry to say, laughable.
 

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connor32 said:
my logic is that there are plenty of 6.5's to fvck. at this point in my life (after my last girlfriend) my standards have gone way up. sleeping around with a bunch of chicks that are just ok doesnt give me a sense of accomplishment. if im not really into a girl (hb9) it's almost not worth it to me to even talk to her with the intent of fvkn her. i'm not saying im better than anyone else. im just sayin for me there is nothing better than being with a really hot chick that blows my mind. i know people that will fvck any pig just to nut. these people dont impress me at all. on the other hand i know guys that have really high standards. these guys, coincidentally, are people that i admire. they are men of quality........and your theory that hotter chicks are more likely to have std's is, im sorry to say, laughable.

Well to each his own then. The only thing I thought was laughable was the fact that you are extremely concerned over an STD from a 6.5 then a 9. You have yet to show any logic, theory or evidence that might actually lead anyone to believe a 6.5 has more STD's then a 9. I however whether you agree with it or not provided at least a theory as to how its the opposite of what your saying. It also seems that some of the other posters agree with me that HB9 are AT LEAST equal in probability of having an STD as a HB6.

Now I guess we have different goals. I, and I don't think I am alone here, like to have sex with girls in order to basically get off, and get the female off as well, and have fun doing it. Now if I was dating a girl then maybe there would be a deeper feeling to the act of having sex, but for now, having sex is just what it is, to come basically. Now it might be a little better with a HB9, but I would rather get multiple girls around 6.5 or better, than limit my standards to only HB9's. You stated that at least one of your main reasons for not sleeping with HB6.5's is that they don't give you a sense of accomplishment. Well I myself, and I also don't think I am alone on this either don't do it solely for the accomplishment, in fact that is probably one of the last things I worry about. I have my own ideas for why this may be your goal and why the accomplishment factor is in the forefront of your mind on deciding which women to approach, but I don't want to unfairly judge you or your personality too deeply since I don't really know you and it wouldn't be very nice to post them on a public forum, so I will keep those ideas to myself. So to each his own, who knows what I will think later on, but for now(and I doubt it will change), I will be keeping my options open, with any female I deem ****able.
 

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Well to each his own then. The only thing I thought was laughable was the fact that you are extremely concerned over an STD from a 6.5 then a 9. You have yet to show any logic, theory or evidence that might actually lead anyone to believe a 6.5 has more STD's then a 9. I however whether you agree with it or not provided at least a theory as to how its the opposite of what your saying. It also seems that some of the other posters agree with me that HB9 are AT LEAST equal in probability of having an STD as a HB6.

Now I guess we have different goals. I, and I don't think I am alone here, like to have sex with girls in order to basically get off, and get the female off as well, and have fun doing it. Now if I was dating a girl then maybe there would be a deeper feeling to the act of having sex, but for now, having sex is just what it is, to come basically. Now it might be a little better with a HB9, but I would rather get multiple girls around 6.5 or better, than limit my standards to only HB9's. You stated that at least one of your main reasons for not sleeping with HB6.5's is that they don't give you a sense of accomplishment. Well I myself, and I also don't think I am alone on this either don't do it solely for the accomplishment, in fact that is probably one of the last things I worry about. I have my own ideas for why this may be your goal and why the accomplishment factor is in the forefront of your mind on deciding which women to approach, but I don't want to unfairly judge you or your personality too deeply since I don't really know you and it wouldn't be very nice to post them on a public forum, so I will keep those ideas to myself. So to each his own, who knows what I will think later on, but for now(and I doubt it will change), I will be keeping my options open, with any female I deem ****able.
its not that im looking for a sense of accomplishment with sex. im saying i dont like guys who think they r dj's cause they can f close a 6. as far as why im only into 9's......you might theorize im looking for validation or im insecure. there may be validity to that, but the main reason is ive become very picky in the last year. i've been with 6's in the past. after i nut its like "why did i do this?" havent you ever given one of your buddies sh1t for hooking up with "that" girl. we've all had drunken hookups that we've regretted. you see the girl out at a later time and its like i cant believe i f'd her.

your missing the point on the std thing. its not about odds and probability. to me its like why take the risk with a girl thats below my standards. i never said 6's are more probable to have std's than 9's or vice versa. the std is one factor of this whole discussion. im really talking about an overall lack of motivation to game 6's.

in addition you may or may not think that banging lots of 6's makes you a player. be careful of your rep. one day a chick you really care about could find out about your sleeping around and be really turned off by it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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