sex talk

[Five To One]

The talk of sex came up again tonight with my girlfriend and she said it was her morals that was stopping her. I asked if that meant she was waiting till marriage and she said she wasnt sure. What should I make of this?

If shes unsure about it then think she wil stop me in the heat of the moment?
We get so into it some nights even when her parents are home, I cant imagine how turned on she could get if we had a good sex location.


I should just work on getting her isolated and see what her body is telling me then. Im thinking theres a good chance she wont stop me from putting it in. Even if she hasnt said to me I want to have sex.

Is my thinking on the situation correct?
Anyone had something similar happen to them?

 

[Smack]

You won't know if she will have sex with you until you try and go for it. With sex, doing it is definitely better than talking about it. Just remember to slowly build it up. Tease her a bit. Don't appear desperate but instead appear to be a very sexual guy who she will enjoy having sex with. Really, it isn't as hard as 99% of males think it is.

 

[Five To One]

Yea its just a matter of being in a place where we can do it. My house is a no, my dad walked in on us once and she wasnt wearing much at that point so he watches us carefully now, her house is a no because her dad scares me and he never leaves, and an empty bedroom at a party is out of the question because she doesnt drink and stays away from parties for the most part.

I have to get more creative here.

This question is asked a lot but mabye someone will say something different for once.
Any good places to lay the lay?
Its going to have to be outside somewhere im thinking.

 

[noirsake]

No matter what her view on sex is won't stop her from getting horny. If you can get her horny enough there shouldn't be a problem having her spread the legs.

Don't try to get her alone. That will send up red flags for her and make her think all you want to do is bang her. She will think of you as just another horny guy.

I'm in a similar situation as you as far as a sex location. We can't bang at her place, my place, my car, or anywhere so I have to be patient to wait for being at the right place and at the right time. And we've gotten pretty into it before with her parents home like basically fvcking w/ clothes on. I won't bang when anyone is around period.

I've been trying to think up places and the only things I've come up with is when we go on a trip soon we bang at the hotel (will be just us 2) or if we go camping.

Lol I had her alone in a tent overnight and we only ended up sleeping with each other non sexually coz I was feeling sick to my stomach so I didn't bother.

 

[Five To One]

Nevermind
Im about to become single.
I just found out she went to an amusement park with two friends and another guy from a different school, basicly a double date.

Should I sleep on it or break up with her tonight?

 

[Smack]

Bloody hell talk about insecurity! You have absolutely nothing to suggest that they did anything sexual - or even anything that comprises cheating.

Yea its just a matter of being in a place where we can do it. My house is a no, my dad walked in on us once and she wasnt wearing much at that point so he watches us carefully now, her house is a no because her dad scares me and he never leaves, and an empty bedroom at a party is out of the question because she doesnt drink and stays away from parties for the most part.

I have to get more creative here.

This question is asked a lot but mabye someone will say something different for once.
Any good places to lay the lay?
Its going to have to be outside somewhere im thinking.

How old are you? Why are your parents actively trying to stop you from having sex? Don't your parents ever leave the house together for a long time?

I'm glad I'm not an American teenager...

 

[shaunuk]

Yeah, how old are you mate? I dunno, I have trouble understanding these relationships in which is seems you MAY get sex one day if you're lucky...lol, sex should be a given in a relationship (to some extent).

It is possible to **** in a house with people in it, just be quiet.

And how do you know your GF was not just going out with friends?

 

[Five To One]

Well one of the guys and the girl are good friends of hers. But she told me those were the only people going. Im like 90% sure another guy came that she has only known for a couple of weeks who goes to another school.

Im calling her friend in a bit to find out for sure. If she wants to date guys thats fine but shes not going to do it with me around.

 

[Five To One]

Bloody hell talk about insecurity! You have absolutely nothing to suggest that they did anything sexual - or even anything that comprises cheating.

Its not insecurity. Its about not being nieve.
Her two friends are dating. Tell me how it wasnt a double date. How would you handle a girlfriend of 4 months going on a date? Its just not something im going to put up with.

All of that plus she tryed to hide it from me. Come on think about it for a second. If he really was just a friend to her why did she lie and say it was just the three of them.

On top of all this I sorta know the guy. Hes a good looking aphla male. Same hieght and size as me pretty much. She would still be stupid to even think about it but you never know, girls do stupid things.

Im obviously going to talk to her about it first but this has just shown me her lack of respect for me.

Agree or disagree with my thinking Smack?

 

[Axcell]

Its not insecurity. Its about not being nieve.
Her two friends are dating. Tell me how it wasnt a double date. How would you handle a girlfriend of 4 months going on a date? Its just not something im going to put up with.

All of that plus she tryed to hide it from me. Come on think about it for a second. If he really was just a friend to her why did she lie and say it was just the three of them.

On top of all this I sorta know the guy. Hes a good looking aphla male. Same hieght and size as me pretty much. She would still be stupid to even think about it but you never know, girls do stupid things.

Im obviously going to talk to her about it first but this has just shown me her lack of respect for me.

Agree or disagree with my thinking Smack?

I'm not the type of guy to always say "next her", but based on what you said, I truly would. It always starts like this and gets worse. Relationships are based on trust, if you can't do this, make sure YOU get out of it first so that you still remain the prize and have your dignity. I've also found that it's much easier to get over a girl that you've dumped rather than the girl dumping you.

 

[Smack]

Its not insecurity. Its about not being nieve.
Her two friends are dating. Tell me how it wasnt a double date. How would you handle a girlfriend of 4 months going on a date? Its just not something im going to put up with.

All of that plus she tryed to hide it from me. Come on think about it for a second. If he really was just a friend to her why did she lie and say it was just the three of them.

On top of all this I sorta know the guy. Hes a good looking aphla male. Same hieght and size as me pretty much. She would still be stupid to even think about it but you never know, girls do stupid things.

Im obviously going to talk to her about it first but this has just shown me her lack of respect for me.

Agree or disagree with my thinking Smack?

It all depends on what the 'date' meant. It's difficult for me to answer this, because we don't have 'dating' as such here in Britain.

The fact that she hid this from you is definitely a bad thing. However, she could have simply went along because her friend asked her to, thinking it was no big deal.

 

[shaunuk]

Yeah, Smack is right, in the UK we don't really have 'dating'..

I see lots of American etc guys say 'I've been dating my girlfriend for xxx months'...When you've got a girlfriend you're still 'dating'? Dunno, seems weird to me. Once they're your gf you just hang out and do whatever don't you...Just the way it is phrased and termed seems a bit strange.

Here there seems to be 'seeing someone', 'going out with someone'/in a relationship or whatever (which means they're your girlfriend or conversely your boyfriend) and fvck-buddies I guess...althought people say 'seeing someone' sometimes because you can't tell your grandma you've got a fvck buddy...haha.

Yeah for all you know she just went to wherever with some people...

My main concern is that it shouldn't be hard to get sex out of someone who is already your girlfriend. Tho it depends how old you are, you might be like 16 or something, at that age lots of people are still virgins

 

[Five To One]

We talked about it and I decided it was mostly a misunderstanding and miscommunication, not really all her fault.

But back to the sex thing. It just comes down to am I willing to wait for a girl I really like and really want to have sex with because in the meantime I could be fvcking girls, just less hot and who I dont care about as much.
Its something I have to decide on my own.

We are young by the way.

Thanks for the replys