Sex-related problems

[m0101]

Hi all -- apologies if this isn't the right place to be posting this, but I didn't know where else to turn to. I have a couple of issues while having sex, and I imagine that some women get turned off and dump me because of these.

There are basically 2 issues:
1. I find sex positions where I am behind a woman very exciting (if I look at pictures, videos or just simply a woman's naked a$s) - but while doing the act, I repeatedly go soft. Same goes for when a woman is on top. This does NOT happen in missionary position, which I can sustain for a long time.
2. I am not circumcised, and my foreskin doesn't retract entirely. Sometimes without enough lubrication, it really hurts. To the extent that when i imagine it, I cringe. Hence, I always use condoms but I can foresee this being a problem for me when I want to have kids/avoid condom with my future-gf etc. I have tried google-ing this, but there are some random excercises/advice people have given, and some of the comments mentioned that some ppl even got hurt. ANyone else have this problem?

I don't watch porn and dont masturbate (it's been 3+ months) and i am seeing the positive effect of that on my sex drive etc. In terms of exercise, I do regular cardio (3-4 times/week)

Apologies for the graphic detail in mentioning my problems, but I didn't know of any other way. I find that women can adjust the first 1-2 times, but after that they just get turned off and ignore me. This has started affecting my confidence, and I actually avoid having sex with a new plate too soon, for fear of making her run away,

Any suggestions/exercises/tips? thanks guys. I really hope im not alone.

 

[Upside]

I can't comment on your sexual issue, however:

I am uncut and I had your problem as well. It's a condition called phimosis. Basically when you are hard (or not. even flaccid i still couldn't fully retract) you can not retract the foreskin 100% over the head. There are multiple ways to fix this:

1. Get cut/partially cut. Partially cut makes loosens the foreskin a bit but I don't know the full details. Look it up.

2. Stretch the skin over a period of time. Basically, get hard and start to retract the skin SLOWLY. It will hurt like a ***** and there will be redness, but basically your skin cells begin to "expand" and over time you will be able to fully retract. This is NOT a quick fix. It will take time. I hear using steroid cream helps alot, but it isn't necessary. Again, google it for more details. This is what I did and it worked. However, the tip of your **** will be sensitive as all ****. It will hurt just to have it grazed. I still get a little pain when I get a blow job but it has gotten better over the years. You need to desensitize. I still cringe at how bad it hurt at first. Weird ass pain.