Sex questions (virgin)

[noodle]

So let me give you the low down,
basically me and my girlfriend tried having sex a couple of times in the last few months. Keyword TRIED
Anyways, whenever I tried to penetrate it would always hurt her. I am just able to get the tip of my penis in there and then she stops me and says it hurts. No sex for me!

I don't know what is making her hurt and niether does she. We're both virgins, (16-17 yo.) Even when I try fingering her she says it hurts if I put my finger up too far. (yes I do trim my nails, so its not that)

I asked her what kind of pain it is and she says it "stings"
I don't know if this happens to all virgin girls so I'm looking for some help here.
Shes also never masturbated and she doesn't wear tampons, (just the pad that goes on the outside of the vagina)

Anyways, any ideas as to what is hurting her and what we can do to solve this?
Any help, GREATLY appreciated!

 

[theunflushables]

Lots and lots of lube. If she hasn't ever had anything inside her its going to feel really awkward and tight. Lubing up will help it go in nice and easy. Take it slow too.

Also try to get her as wet as possible first. Eat her out until she is as moist as a snack cake.

 

[SmoothTalker]

Never been with a virgin myself, but I'm pretty sure pain for her the first time is completely normal. She's never been stretched out and possibly still has a hymen to break, so yeah both can hurt.

That being said, your best bets are to get her comfortable and relaxed first, followed by extremely horny and wet. Use water based lube if she doesn't get very wet on her own. Starting out with fingers is a good idea, and maybe suggest she try fingering herself once in a while before then to break things in.

 

[noodle]

Never been with a virgin myself, but I'm pretty sure pain for her the first time is completely normal. She's never been stretched out and possibly still has a hymen to break, so yeah both can hurt.

That being said, your best bets are to get her comfortable and relaxed first, followed by extremely horny and wet. Use water based lube if she doesn't get very wet on her own. Starting out with fingers is a good idea, and maybe suggest she try fingering herself once in a while before then to break things in.

How abouts do we break the hymen?

And do they sell sex lube to 16 year olds?!? lol

I've tried suggesting for her to finger herself or stretch it out abit herself at home....but she doesn't like the idea of touching herself for some reason. Confuses me. :crazy:

 

[SmoothTalker]

Are you trolling?

Where do you live man, I thought this stuff was common knowledge to everyone by that age if not years earlier. Not trying to be mean here, but it's pretty odd.

Anyway, don't know how it is where you live but in Canada you can buy lube in the same area as condoms in pretty much any pharmacy and nobody checks ID or anything when you are buying it, so you should be fine.

As I said I've never been with a virgin but from what my friends have told me, just do what I said about turning her on, and then you just have to put your penis in. It will hurt her and bleed a little but that's life. Given that, she obviously has to actually want to do it enough to not say no as soon as it hurts.

Good luck.