"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sex Question

creeton76

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Not sure if this is the right place to put ask this but... Last night I was with my girlfriend(We are both in high school) and she had mentioned that she wanted to have sex. So we made out for awhile and I got a condom and continued to make out and I noticed I had trouble staying fully erect. I finally got it up and tried go in but I kept losing it and since she was a virgin she was very tight. I fingered her and kept making out hoping I could keep an erection but still no luck so I told her to give me a hand job to see if maybe getting off once would help me later.

We kept making out and I tried to keep her wet well I waited to see if I could get it up but I never could keep fully erected for an extended period of time. This was my first time also, although she has never believed that I was a virgin. Finally she told me it was no big deal and that we could just try another time and told me she wanted to try again next weekend as I was leaving.

Obviously I felt pretty bad about it but tried to keep cool. I never have problems getting erections, I get them very easily just making out and I thought that was the last thing I'd ever have to worry about. Is this normal or should I be concerned? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Creeton76,

Probably ALMOST the right place to ask. You've got the right forum, but health and fitness would be a more appropriate sub-directory. I'm sure it will be moved there.

Use the search and you'll find MANY threads extremely similar to this one.

I never shared the same experience with you. But I am aware of the cause. Mental State. It will be a combination of things causing you to lose your erection.

DO NOT seek drug help with this, as it would be a temporary solution.

It is nerves which are causing it. As you are in this situation more and more it will become more comfortable and you'll have less problems.

You sound like a good, smart kid and your girlfriend sounds like she'll be fine with waiting for your nerves to subside.

Try to keep masturbation to a minimum in the times leading up to your next attempt at sex.

Do not worry about premature ejaculation. There is every chance it will happen, its natural. Don't put any pressure on yourself, enjoy it.

Good luck. Keep it safe.

three12.
 

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I felt the same way the before my first time. It wasn't ur time. Your time will come.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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