SEX QUESTION - GF Trouble

[Daniel1099]

basically me and my girlfriend talked about how we wanted to do things to eachother...

then the next day, i find out she doesnt want to because she doesnt want to get attached to me, cuz of her last BF.

anyways.

we were talking...and she says she is "not ready to take the next step"

we have been dating for like a week, but im one horny man.

we have known eachother for 3 years, and have liked eachother and have been unoffical offical partners in the past years...

but this time its more seriouse, and we like eachother alot more.

she has also became more Godly. and im trying to be (we both go to a christian school)

so thats also stopping her...(she is not a virgin)

how do i get her to give in?

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Don't push it and you won't come off as needy.

Second, She said she isn't ready to move on with you. So, I'd say dump her and find a girl who will put out.

 

[Daniel1099]

idk if i should dump her yet.

i dont wana be the guy thats in the relationship just for sex

i like havin a gf

 

[jeffthechef]

ask her why she should be attached to you after having a physical experience with you...honestly she shouldn't be attached to you or anything in this world

attachment leads to suffering
sex should be a spiritual experience..but that doesn't mean you should become attached to that person...love and attachment are very different
perhaps you should discuss that with her..eventually if you're good with words and this sort of belief...she'll be persuaded..i'm not telling you to trick her..but why should sex lead to attachment

 

[intrextrovert]

If she doesn't get attached to you a relationship will not happen.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

ask her why she should be attached to you after having a physical experience with you...honestly she shouldn't be attached to you or anything in this world

attachment leads to suffering
sex should be a spiritual experience..but that doesn't mean you should become attached to that person...love and attachment are very different
perhaps you should discuss that with her..eventually if you're good with words and this sort of belief...she'll be persuaded..i'm not telling you to trick her..but why should sex lead to attachment

Having sex with someone can create strong feelings for one another. Especially girls since they are so emotional.

But, yeah, I think he needs to escelate into it.

 

[jeffthechef]

inextrovert...although that may be true..it shouldn't be the case...that's the problem with teens nowadays...especially in the west...attachment is normal..people are too attached to their ipods, phones, cars, popularity, clothes, every ****ing thing...

AND..they don't even know they're attached....they think they're "caring" for it...which is complete bull****...it's no one's fault really...it's all around children as they grow up..in every love story like cinderella and ****...

if you get to the core of it...love SHOULDN'T be attachment...it should be a non attached attachment..whichi have been stating repeatedly

and i hope you're not attached to sex yourself iafyb
desiring sex is desiring the beauty of form...i know it's hard to contain..but don't feel as though you have to do it as soon as possible..that feeling in the end just hurts you...don't lose sense of true beauty