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Sex/Penis Problem? Worrying... Please read.

Rogerman

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First , Hello all :) I'm Rogerman, Long time reader first time poster.

I'm 17 years old and my sex life is pretty much started with my girlfriend. Thing is, I have a sort of a "problem" ? I really dont know how to name it. Well here it goes.

We had 3 hours in our hands and we wanted to take Full advantage of it in bed. We started kissing and stuff, but it seems that even with touching a woman's body or kissing her lips, my penis wont get erected 100% (masturbating though does the trick :p ) . I seriously dont know if this odd or not , but it was erected only about 70% which was quite hard for it to get penetrated into the vagina without it bending and not getting in fully. Of course we had our sex but not for 3 hours. After about 35 minutes of sex we had a sort of "talk brake" but afterwords it was hard to even get it erected 70% !!! I was dissapointed, and i never released the liqued. , i mean what the fvck man how would you feel ?

This is really worrying , as i want to be really good at bed, atleast i want my penis to be 100% erected. I started thinking about viagra but i think im taking it too seriously, i just want to fvck her brains out the next time I see her, pleasing HER and me.

This is not a first, i remember happening something similar with my ex.

Any suggestions? Help? Any of you guys expirienced the same thing?

Im all ears :(
 

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Stop masturbating, work out, exercise your PC muscle (do a search on google), make sure you're eating healthy, and if you really need to, supplement with zinc / ginseng.

Don't bother with viagra. Most of all, stop masturbating. You will be getting full blown boners all the time even when she's not there.
 

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I work out, I've started bodybuilding a year ago and im doing very fine.

I'm very healthy, i have done a general check up and i recieved excellent results. I used to have cholesterol but now it's fine.


Now about masturbating. Is this really a case? I doubt it, i mean come on , since when masturbating prevent you from your penis to get hard on with a woman ?


About that PC Muscle and "zinc / ginseng" , looking into it.
 

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Think of it this way. You go out to a restaurant to eat. As soon as you get there, you eat several rounds of apetizers. What happens? You're too full, and you can't eat the main meal. When you abstain from eating all the apetizers, you become ravenous and eat the whole meal without missing a beat.

When you masturbate often, you release that sexual energy and are sexually satisfied to the point where you're always relaxed and not that horny. When you abstain from it, all that sexual energy stays within and doesn't get released, making you more horny. If you abstain from it long enough, you start getting full erections from anything with tits.
 

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So, are you saying you can wank infront of her, but when you enter her (or think about that) you begin to lose it?
 

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It's probably just performance anxiety. It happens to all guys. Whenever you find your d1ck isn't working the way you want it to, don't take it too seriously because it happens to all guys. When you become 100% comfortable with the woman you're screwing (or just comfortable with screwing women) is happens much less.

As for the "stop masturbating" issue, I think it's bull5hit. Hell, I do it pretty much daily, and I'm still able to perform well. If anything, I find that masturbating an hour or two before sex helps me keep it up longer, and it helps me keep going longer.
 

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I notice you said 'So I can please HER and me'. You're emphasising the woman. It's not like she's paying you for sex. As long as you know what you're doing, if you focus on relaxing and pleasing yourself, it'll all fall into place.
 

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Eat blueberries every day.

As for not jacking off - that's pure cr#p. IMHO.
 

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Originally posted by NewMan
Eat blueberries every day.

As for not jacking off - that's pure cr#p. IMHO.
Out of two pieces of advice: eating blueberries every day and not wanking it every day... you think that the wanking advice is crap?
 

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Rogerman, I don't know how to break this to you, but your penis is dying. This girl is going to have to perform mouth-to-mouth on it, FAST. Time is running out.
 

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is she sucking your D**k? that would help a lot to give you a full hard erection.

I think masturbating can help improve your performance? you must use it or lose it, just like any other physical activity.
 

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maybe you're not fully sexually satisfied with her body. if it does the trick, think of some hot chick you'd want to **** while doing your gf...remember keep this a secret.
 

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Eat Blueberries? Are you serious ? :p

Anyways, I would have to agree on masturbation with the guys, i dont think it makes any difference.

I'm working on my PC Muscles , seems worth a try.


Desdinova's reply was on the spot. I think i did have some anxiety , for performing a good sex, but I think it all comes with expirience. It's just that im afraid of havint to deal with it again. It's just not who i want to be in bed. Other guys in my age have premature ejaculation while I ejaculated quite late , in my short expirience wiht sex. and have the ability ( as i believe atleast ) to do it for hours. I know I can , but i want d1ck to be 100%. I think you guys get the picture.

"So, are you saying you can wank infront of her, but when you enter her (or think about that) you begin to lose it?"

Alpine, it's not quite that, it's just that my d1ck was erected 70% and by the time it was in, it kept loosing it's erectness. That's why I worried of having some sort of problem as i want to solve it as soon as posssible.

But maybe it was something DJBen noticed, of trying to please HER before me. Maybe i should sit back relax and let nature sort things?

I just dont want it happen again....
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Rogerman, I don't know how to break this to you, but your penis is dying. This girl is going to have to perform mouth-to-mouth on it, FAST. Time is running out.

Funny..funny man :)
 

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Originally posted by Rogerman
INow about masturbating. Is this really a case? I doubt it, i mean come on , since when masturbating prevent you from your penis to get hard on with a woman ?
Yes, this really is the case. I know you love to slather your d!ck in vaseline and slap that salami till sundown but stop for a couple weeks. You'll probably go insane but you must do it.

Your kung-fu grip is several times stronger than any vagina, your **** has been desensitized. After a couple weeks of a hands-off-self policy you'll be fine plus you'll be ready to explode so you'll feel every inch of pvssy with great pleasure and get HARD as a goddamn rock.

Not to mention that since you've likely been masturbating to porn for so long that pictures and video in front of you and in your head are what get you off. Being up close and personal doesn't fit that "blueprint" in your mind so you're not as stimulated emotionally.

This is in addition to being able to relax. Sounds like you need to do both.
 

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
maybe you're not fully sexually satisfied with her body. if it does the trick, think of some hot chick you'd want to **** while doing your gf...remember keep this a secret.
Dude, I thought of that , but man her body is Hot.
I think the problem is me. I'm trying to figure out if its in my mind or my d1ck.
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Out of two pieces of advice: eating blueberries every day and not wanking it every day... you think that the wanking advice is crap?
That is quite possibly the funniest thing I've read this week. :D
 

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maybe refraining from masturbation would help? what SOMA said does make sense, you would definitely feel a lot hornier if you didnt ejaculate for a couple of weeks and you would probably *** faster.
 

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maybe refraining from masturbation would help? what SOMA said does make sense, you would definitely feel a lot hornier if you didnt ejaculate for a couple of weeks and you would probably *** faster.
Yeah, you'd spunk the instant she touches you.

It doesn't make sense. If guys can go a second round, how does that differ from masturbating before sex?
 
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