"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Sex on first date, does this change when to contact her?

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Ok, so here's my situation of the week:

Met a pretty cool (or at least for now she is cool) woman Saturday OLD for some drinks during the day with some buddies (w buddies wasn't planned, kind of a last minute, i'm already out you can meet us if you want), we ended up hanging the whole day, going back to my place which has a semi studio set up and playing guitar, hanging etc, eventually mind blowing sex, she spent the night, we had sex again in the morning Sunday. Sunday she blew up my phone and was asking about my schedule, besides having 4 dates lined up for this week, I legitimately am pretty busy, so told her I could not hang out till Sunday next week. The old beta in me was tempted to cancel one of the 4 dates as two of them are really just FWB situations... but I didn't. So set the date for Sunday.... Recap:

Meet & Sex: Satuday
Morning sex and planned next date: Sunday

We spent a good 8 hours together minus sleep for convo and sex, best date in awhile, here's my question:

My general rule now is not to talk to her till Sunday shoot her an address or whatever for where we will meet. I Don't want her to think I just used her for her banging body, actually like her a tiny bit. Is this too long to not contact since we did the indoor Olympics already?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My general rule now is not to talk to her till Sunday shoot her an address or whatever for where we will meet. I Don't want her to think I just used her for her banging body, actually like her a tiny bit. Is this too long to not contact since we did the indoor Olympics already?
You don't want her to think you just used her, yet you want to treat her like you would any other FWB... Don't change your schedule though, just give her a bit of attention a couple of times before Sunday.

That's what I'd do if I liked a girl. Not too much, not too little. Just enough to let her know you care a little bit, but you're in no way completely sold.
 
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