Sex on 1st date, how to proceed?

[manfrombelow]

Straight to the point:

I had a date last night, that led to sex. For this, I assumed everything went well. (I took her to some drinks and finger food first, and then a movie, and then sex at her place.)

After sex, I left the place.

I assumed that she would text me first the next morning, which she hasn't.

Now, what to proceed from here? Who should text first? And for what purpose?

Thank you gents.

 

[Grounded eagle]

Text her whenever you feel like.Anything else wouldn’t be genuine,and if you happen to text her first she won’t feel “used.”(Presuming she’s not just a ONS and that’s what you’re going for?)

 

[MissouriMark]

When you said finger food, I was thinking something else first haha!

I guess the question is how was your texting with her before the date? Frequent? Who initiated most often? What were the response times? I think it may be one of those things where each of you is waiting for the other person to initiate first.

I guess if you wait too many days, she may think you were just looking for sex or it wasn't any good. My opinion would be to message tomorrow with something laid-back and casual and not even mention the date or the sexual activity and see how she responds or if she brings it up herself. That's probably what I would do, but I'm sure they'll be other advice.

 

[Willie Naylor]

Call her tomorrow. Quick little chatty phone call after a fvck is a good idea.

After the call, wait for her to reach back out to you.

 

[manfrombelow]

Text her whenever you feel like.Anything else wouldn’t be genuine,and if you happen to text her first she won’t feel “used.”(Presuming she’s not just a ONS and that’s what you’re going for?)

I'm not so sure about the bolded part, because that's the old nice-guy-beta- version of me used to do many times in the past which all led to me getting ghosted afterwards.

Yes even though we had sex on the 1st date but I would want to keep dating her a bit longer, not just a ONS.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

How long did you know her before the first date? Was it the first time you met in person? If so, how long had you been messaging for, and what type of place did you meet?

 

[Grounded eagle]

I'm not so sure about the bolded part, because that's the old nice-guy-beta- version of me used to do many times in the past which all led to me getting ghosted afterwards.

Yes even though we had sex on the 1st date but I would want to keep dating her a bit longer, not just a ONS.

I presume that you’re not that nice guy beta anymore.If you have reservations about texting her too soon,then wait,no worries.Nothing wrong with that.

If you want you can even only text her the next time you want to meet up.

 

[manfrombelow]

Updated:

A couple of minutes after I made this thread, when I was attempting to send her a text, she contacted me first.

The content was neutral, something like:

"Good morning old man, how are you doing" (Because I was teasing her that if she found me too old for her, she should call me old man, which she reacted to very positively).

I let her wait about half an hour before replying with something like "Morning young gal, how are you today"

to which she replied "Never been better *wink*"

To which I said "Sounds good, must have been all the vaccine Dr.OldMan here injected you with last night *wink*"

to which she gave a big laughing emoji and, guess what, she told me to add another number of her, saying this number is her MAIN number and the number that we had been using for communication is only SECONDARY. Another lesson learned: Women nowadays have a lot of numbers/chatting accounts that they use for multiple kinds of men they meet.

All of my replies are at least 40-60 minutes behind hers, that's how I always do it.

I'll keep this thread updated. This girl is 25 years old. She looks like your typical nerdy and stoic girl in the office, but damn, she sucked my d!ck like there's no tomorrow!

 

[Willie Naylor]

This girl is 25 years old. She looks like your typical nerdy and stoic girl in the office, but damn, she sucked my d!ck like there's no tomorrow!

The quiet, reserved girls are the freakiest.

 

[BadBoy89]

I'll keep this thread updated. This girl is 25 years old. She looks like your typical nerdy and stoic girl in the office, but damn, she sucked my d!ck like there's no tomorrow!

A stoic, 25-year-old girl, who, after eating chicken fingers and a Diet Coke with a man on a first date, watching a movie with the man where she can't talk to him, trusted him enough, in a COVID-19 and MeToo World., to invite him back into her home, be one on one alone with him and f*ck his brains out?

Rock on baby!

 

[manfrombelow]

A stoic, 25-year-old girl, who, after eating chicken fingers and a Diet Coke with a man on a first date, watching a movie with the man where she can't talk to him, trusted him enough, in a COVID-19 and MeToo World., to invite him back into her home, be one on one alone with him and f*ck his brains out?

Rock on baby!

Goddamn buddy your comment made my day!

 

[2Rocky]

Atta boy...Get a second roll in the hay to lock her in this week. Then determine where you have her slotted....FB or LTR

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Straight to the point:

I had a date last night, that led to sex. For this, I assumed everything went well. (I took her to some drinks and finger food first, and then a movie, and then sex at her place.)

After sex, I left the place.

I assumed that she would text me first the next morning, which she hasn't.

Now, what to proceed from here? Who should text first? And for what purpose?

Thank you gents.

No clue.
Every sex date I’ve had has been a sleep over.

 

[SW15]

I'll keep this thread updated. This girl is 25 years old. She looks like your typical nerdy and stoic girl in the office, but damn, she sucked my d!ck like there's no tomorrow!

Second time sex yet?

 

[Black Widow Void]

(insert pat on the back) Cheers!

Personally speaking, if I get a first date lay (and it's someone I'd like to see again) I have no problem initiating the first after-date text. As far as the playing field, she gave up the goods and so, you'll likely not look bad.

The only exception is if, during the date, a gal went heavy on the game of mental chess. These types may need a little silence to feel some anxiousness.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Sounds like you're doing just fine without us @manfrombelow

Just be wary that making this thread and asking these basic questions may be a sign of emotional over-investment. The short answer is do what you feel is right, there is no perfect answer for every girl. Each one is unique and you've had more exposure to this one than anyone else here, so you should know best. And you're the only one that knows your goals best.

Waiting to text back is always fine, since it can be annoying to always get instant responses, and ideally you're actually busy rather than pretending to be. Cheers.

 

[corrector]

Did she ask you if you have been in a relationship before on the first date? Take notes @oc16. High interest women dont ask bs dating questions.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I'm not so sure about the bolded part, because that's the old nice-guy-beta- version of me used to do many times in the past which all led to me getting ghosted afterwards.

Yes even though we had sex on the 1st date but I would want to keep dating her a bit longer, not just a ONS.

Text her the following day. Nothing beta about that. Otherwise, she may think it was a one night stand.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Updated:

A couple of minutes after I made this thread, when I was attempting to send her a text, she contacted me first.

The content was neutral, something like:

"Good morning old man, how are you doing" (Because I was teasing her that if she found me too old for her, she should call me old man, which she reacted to very positively).

I let her wait about half an hour before replying with something like "Morning young gal, how are you today"

to which she replied "Never been better *wink*"

To which I said "Sounds good, must have been all the vaccine Dr.OldMan here injected you with last night *wink*"

to which she gave a big laughing emoji and, guess what, she told me to add another number of her, saying this number is her MAIN number and the number that we had been using for communication is only SECONDARY. Another lesson learned: Women nowadays have a lot of numbers/chatting accounts that they use for multiple kinds of men they meet.

All of my replies are at least 40-60 minutes behind hers, that's how I always do it.

I'll keep this thread updated. This girl is 25 years old. She looks like your typical nerdy and stoic girl in the office, but damn, she sucked my d!ck like there's no tomorrow!

A word of caution. If she has two numbers, it means that she has two phones. Unless she needs a separate phone for work purposes, having a second phone likely means that she is, at minimum, major wh*re and also possibly a part-time prostitute/escort/cam girl/etc. Proceed with caution if you’re looking for something serious.

 

[9-3enthusiast]

She looks like your typical nerdy and stoic girl in the office, but damn, she sucked my d!ck like there's no tomorrow!

Ha-ha - Reminds me of a girl in my 20s.
Redhead, worked in the local library, wore glasses, and looked like butter wouldn't melt in her mouth... First meet-up we had a dinner date planned, but when we met she said let's go to my place I have something already half-cooked...
Walked into her place around 7:15pm Friday night, and finally left there - totally exhausted, on Sunday afternoon
That was the first of 5 similar weekends.
A total freak!