"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ok, it took me just over a year, but I now call myself a don juan! :cool: I have met a few girls within the last month and I am sort of with one, not a relationship yet, due to bad past experiences when I have rushed a relationship, not cool. But, while my hard work is finally paying off, I still have some inner game things that I would like to discuss.

First of all, say I'm kind of with a girl (not going out, but have hooked up with/ are dating/whatever) then I see her talking to other guys, see guys hitting on her, and I feel sort of insecure I guess. The thing is that I then realize that I do the exact same thing all the time w/other girls since I'm still single. I am wondering what to do about this. I know it happens to other people because I've talked about it, but I'd like to eliminate it, since it can bring out other problems.

Next, about sex. While I have come close, I haven't had intercourse yet, and I am wondering some dj's opinions on it. I have read ( on this site) that it releases chemicals in a girls brain and will make them pretty much in love w/ u, as long as she's not a huge slut or something. is that true? The other thing is, sould I wait till I have a girl I really like, or just **** hott chicks whenever I can? I could, I am just wondering if I should or if it will complicate things.

Experienced dj's advice would be cool
thanks kids
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It's your decision and if your not totaly sold on it, don't.
 

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This is a good post. You know, it really does take about a year to change. You're about at the same stage as me bro...

But the thing about hooking up is (in my school), is a girl can hookup with many guys, and you can hook up with many girls. Your not really *together* unless its kind of specified. The girl might get jealous if youre hooking up with other girls while your hooking up with her, but its cool.

Dude you want to know if you can have sex with just hott girls whenever???!! If they're hott, and youre not dating any girls then why not??!?!? YEAHHH MAN!!!


Glad to see you making it dude. I dedicate my 499th post to you. my 500 post will be helpful fyi to all.
 

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Imagine seeing your girl getting hit on by some other guys and you just smiling. Just standing their with a grin happy. Imagine that a 1000 times. And actualy try to be happy while doing it.

There's no reason to get angry of jelous or anything like that. Their just isn't.
 

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yeah, I'll stay confident when I'm w/ a girl, but sometime I'll get that feeling like maybe I'm not really in control. I think the problem is that last year in my first real relationship, I was very confident and then I got cheated on, which pretty much made my life hell for a month, so I always have that in the back of my mind..I am thinking I should try to just forget about it though. I'll try the imagining myself smile thing..

One more thing is that it takes me awhile to get a girl to open up to me. I can create attraction really fast and do all the other things right. But once it's past that first stage I seem to have trouble getting a chick to really talk to me and have good conversation. I kno every single girl in the world talks a lot, I just need to open it up, so if anybody has advice on that, that would be cool too.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by kev me723
One more thing is that it takes me awhile to get a girl to open up to me. I can create attraction really fast and do all the other things right. But once it's past that first stage I seem to have trouble getting a chick to really talk to me and have good conversation. I kno every single girl in the world talks a lot, I just need to open it up, so if anybody has advice on that, that would be cool too.
hmm i seem to to have the same problem, i can't spark their emotions past the attraction...any help please?
 

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Have sex with whomever you'd like, if you can. Life is about making yourself happy. If it wasn't life would be miserable and pointless. People believe in God because the thought of it makes them happy. You buy stuff that in turn makes you happy.

If sex makes you happy, then go for it.

And yes, virgins stay stuck on their first sexual experience for a while. Unless it was like rape or something, they get over it eventually.

Last but not least:
Don't be a fool, wrap your tool.
 

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well this post really has nothing to do with religion, so it doesn't matter. This is about being Don Juans anyway, not pastors. Anyway, about this conversation thing, I think quite a few dj's out there have this problem. If I know the basics about a girl, but don't know her extremely well, I really get stuck when I try to make good conversation. I know if I open it up, the girl will do all the talking, but does anyone have any good ways to do this.

(also, I am not really looking for "ask open-ended questions" or "let it flow" unless there is a good way to explain how to do these things)
thanks for the replies boys
 

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Originally posted by Mctwist4
That is just like saying "People don't believe in God because the thought of it makes them scared".
No it isnt.

You can't prove that God doesn't exist just like I can't prove that God does exist. I can only conclude that he does through my own personal experiences. I don't want a religious argument here. Let's just be more open minded.
I did not mention anything about the existence of God. I said the purpose of life was to be happy. Some people's life purpose is devotion to God (it makes them happy and fulfilled, no?)

If anything, I agree with you.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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