Sex leads to confidence, plain and simple

[obijuan]

Sex and confidence are two different things altogether. Little boys can't separate love and sex either which is why they post stupid threads like this.

 

[Maxtro]

I love you too

 

[So pimp its scary]

'Crackhead', I wouldn't say that sex = Confidence as much as confidence +/- = sex. It's more like a spiral... you try to get sex, get shot down, your confidence is lower, you try again, get rejected because of low confidence, and it gets worse, ad infinitum... also, on the other hand; you get sex through effort, confidence is raised, so you are more confident and able to get more sex. It's a spiral that works both ways, but there is usually some sort of equalizing factor for most people, ie, confidence gets too high and get shot down, which lowers confidence, but not enough that you can't get laid anymore, but then it works and you get the boost again...

Anyway, enough rambling...

It's simple really. With a simple sports analogy, practice makes perfect, all that. You are more confident in doing something if you have *AHEM* actually done it before! What a concept.

To this, all I have to say is "The mind CANNOT differentiate between things that really happened and an event that was vividly imagined."

 

[Zircon]

I am 26 years old, had ED for about 2 years 4 years ago. Long story.

I know ever since then I have a hang up about sex. I find the whole thing of "finding a woman" so damn complicated because I have MUCH MORE than just that to worry about.

It's my first time, it's a worry. I've had problems before, that's a worry. I don't know if I can perform under conditions like this. I don't know that if I fail, and I am with the wrong person, will she laugh, walk away and leave me with the mess of hatred I know I would feel for women. I have had half an experience like this already. I don't mind taking chances, but sometimes I wonder whether this risk is too great.

So you see, for me a hooker might be a good option . I would get it over with. If I couldn't get it up, it's not such a big worry, because I am not emotionally attached to her nor the situation.

I'd like some comments from you regarding the situation, and what u think.

 

[Maxtro]

I am 26 years old, had ED for about 2 years 4 years ago.

Are you saying that you had used to have ED for 2 years. And now 4 years later you don't?

If you just want to get it over with and are worried that might not be able to peform, then a hooker might be a good idea for you.

I lost my virginity to a hooker and I can't fully recomend it. After I had sex my body keeps wanting to have sex and going days without it is almost painful. But I'm still glad I got laid.

 

[Zircon]

Used to cycle a lot which damaged my perineum. It's fine now physically, although mentally I'm struggling. Why would you not fully recommend it?

 

[Maxtro]

I wouldn’t fully recommend it because she left me unsatisfied. If I had paid more money and went with a different girl I should have got somebody that allowed multiple pops. Which is just what it sounds like; she lets you pop at least two times. For almost all hookers once you pop once you got to stop.

The other reason I can’t recommend it is that once you have sex, you will want to do it again maybe the next day or the day after and the desire keeps building. Hmm, actually, I’ve gone six days without getting sex and I’m not feeling too bad now, maybe because it’s in the morning but I’m not sure. Days three and four were really hard though. Anyways if you’re going to get laid try to have a source of sex lined up so you can get it again soon. If not prepare for some discomfort.

If you are serious about getting a hooker, run a search for “escorts” and the nearest big city to you. Make sure she is full service or provides a girl friend experience (GFE)

 

[Dirtheart]

I think you're generalising too much. Sex can lead to confidence, but it doesn't always. I believe more confidence can be gained from not needing sex and exercising control.

I.e. Who seems the more confident, the guy who runs round looking for any woman who'll show interest, or the guy who does his own thing and doesn't care?

 

[Zircon]

This is really difficult...perhaps this is not the best way to do it after all.

Point is though I'm 26, everything else in my life is PERFECT. It's so strange that things work out that way. I just find that it's virtually impossible for me to trust any women.

And in this situation it would be easier for me to go with a hooker, because I wouldn't really need to care about the outcome.

strange world...this thing called love is more war than anything else.

 

[Maxtro]

Love?

Sex and love are completly different. Sex is only an extremely pleasureable physical act. While I have yet to have sex with somebody I have feelings for, having sex with them doesn't cause me to start having feelings. The only difference is that I now see the women I've done as easier sexual outlets than any other girl. Meaning I would rather be with a woman I've already had sex with than to go clubbing on Tuesday hoping to meet other girls. I don't love her or even like her for that matter. She's just I nice woman I do.

Its great that you see your life as perfect the way it is now. The only thing your missing is women. I can't help you about trusting women though.