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Sex leads to confidence, plain and simple

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What is the correlation between being a chumpass AFC and not getting laid? I would go as far to hypothesize that it's one in the same practically.

Coming from the background of a 100% loser chump m@therf*cking as AFC as it gets vagina-less loser, I only speak from experience.

But gentlemen, for me, sex HAS LED to confidence BOTTOM LINE.

It's simple really. With a simple sports analogy, practice makes perfect, all that. You are more confident in doing something if you have *AHEM* actually done it before! What a concept.

This goes not for sex only, but consistent sex, yes, plenty of it; and experience overall. I experienced a similar surge of confidence 5-6 years ago, but sadly, it eventually went away, slowly destroyed by a harsh drought of my **** not being wet inside juicy, delightful vaginas. Sexual deprivation is a tough thing for the male psyche to deal with.

I have experienced some dark, evil depression in my 27 years. But getting laid is easily the single most confidence inducing thing I have ever experienced. I haven't posted here in months. Why? Cause I could give a rats ass about any of the crap I was hung up on during a harsh vagina drought. And believe me, I was on some intense self hatred and fear of women.

But now, I've been having sex with a solid 7 consistently for about 5-6 months (as well as hooked up with 2 other girls during this time), and while I'm not at peak capacity donjuan whatever status, my fear of women has fizzled to pretty much an all time low, while my confidence has soared friggin 10 fold.

My masculinity and testosterone, too. It's true, dudes. Women like MEN, not sallys. And I think at the essense of masculinity, you will find 'not giving a damn' This is why I don't put too much stock into all those tactics and tricks, neg-hits, etc. It's just confidence in yourself. I'll make eye contact with every damn good looking woman I see on the street. And I'm not by any means satiated either.

Once you leave the sorry AFC state, you become like a (forgive the duran duran reference) hungry wolf who's just got the taste for blood and wants more. Before I'm through, I am going to hook up with an HB 9 supermodel status or higher. I know this.

I also tried sharing this thought one time in that older frank dude's thread that lasted mad months. I recommended that he go to a hooker (because I have experienced sex leading to confidence), but some freak spazzed out on me and assumed I was a drug addict because of my username and totally spun it the wrong way. I felt that as a virgin in his mid 40's, a trip to a madamme would be beneficial and therapeutic. Still do.

Years ago, I saw some old 70's footage of a father of a 15 year old kid debating with a large amount of women about how he wanted to take his kid to a prostitute so he could become a man. I would endorse this and know that if I went to one when I was 15, I would have benefitted greatly.

Word up, good luck to all the current AFC's, and Peace out

CRACKHEAD
 

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There is no doubt that regular sex surges confidence. It's such a shame that it always seems to be in the confines of a relationship when you really can't take advantage of that natural confidence of being with someone.

Depending on your pesronality, a hooker, while it may be fun for a few hours, really wouldn't do anything for your confidence. You'll just end up thinking, god I couldn't get a woman without paying for it.. Although I do agree.... if you hit 40 drastic measures must be taken....

At any rate, I have hit the dry spell from hell the last few months (more months than I can count on one hand now) . While confidence was in the toilet for awhile, I've now hit a "just don't give a damn anymore" point.... I just look forward to that next surge. It always seems to happen in 3's ... more evidence that when you get it, it just keeps coming...
 

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Sex does lead to confidence, but you can't get laid unless you got confidence... (or pay, or settle for an UG)

So you gotta get the confidence first!
 
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How much credence should we give to the perspective of a 'crack head' on such matters?:rolleyes:

How about if you only have sex with cold-babes2 (CB2) - would you be more confident?

It does give you a confidence boost, but only if it's with a worthy participant!
 

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No, sex with a 2 is no good, unless you are totally into it, but then you probably dont view her as a 2 anyway.

But dont put too much into the hooker thing. Like I said, that was mainly advice for a 40 year old virgin.


But again, this has only been from my experience, and I guess it's not the same for everybody.

As far as confidence leading to sex and not the other way around: True, you have to be somewhat confident to initially get in a girls pants, but the surge you feel (or I felt) after youve been there consistently is on a totally different, AFC DESTROYING level.

And if you are quick to dismiss advice from someone simply because of their usernme, check yourself.
 

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I think visiting a "professional" is a good idea for anyone who's at the age of consent or older, if they haven't had any experience.
Why? I think that everytime a virgin guy tries to connect with a woman he isn't just looking for sex, but for his *first time* and that adds extra gravitas, nervousness and frustration to the whole pursuit.
"Getting it over with" helps because the whole "first time" thing is taken care of. A woman's body is no longer a mystery to the guy - he now has an idea of what the whole sex thing is about (although he's only seen the tip of the iceberg!).
It probably can't hurt, and will most likely help if the whole experience is followed up with some quality mentorship on how to shed shyness and AFC behavior.
 

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note: In case this thread goes towards a debate about seeing a hooker, the crackhead has never paid for sex.
 
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crack head, I was just joking with you.
 

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Confidence is not one dimentional, so saying that sex leads to it is an erroneous statement. Sex may provide momentary confidence but nothing in long term. Confidence is a state of mind.
 

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I agree to a greater extent than I disagree. For most guys, their very first lay pretty much just happens by chance. They're young, unsure of women and everything else, and just fumbling in the dark until, boom! They run into a girl they have chemistry with. If they incidentally say or do the right things, the girl will give herself to him. And that creates a chain reaction where confidence with women is created.


However, confidence cannot be sustained with just sex.
 

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Did not read the whole thing, but.....

I suppose sex can lead to an increase in confidence, but you need to have confidence to get that far.

I don't know why, but ever since my 23rd birthday(was on March 11th), I have a boost of confidence. I feel really good about myself and am really happy for the first time in my life. I am able to enjoy my life for once. Now I don't have a girlfriend, I just have been wroking on a lot of issues from the past. I finally feel free.

You should be able to get most of your confidence and self-esteem from within. If you look for outside sources, like a woman to give you those things, then when it ends you won't have confidence anymore.
 
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I would say that it's not the sex that boost your confidence. It's learning how to get it that will boost it.

When you know how to seduce women into giving up that nut...then that's something you can take any where in the world with you.

Recently a fool on this site jake the chickenhead stoopidly thought I could only get pvssy in my own town. Stupid mistake.

In this photo I am wearing an outfit bought to me by an ex dancer in Vegas who now lives in Los Angels and is married to a rich white dude. As far as her dance does the name Bob Fossy mean anything to you.

http://www.sacscene.com/pn1/modules...ame=gallery&file=index&include=view_photo.php

When you can score pvssy it's a skill set that you can use anywhere in the world.


I can't wait to get to Europe and Aussy land down under next year...
 

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Originally posted by Player_Supreme
I would say that it's not the sex that boost your confidence. It's learning how to get it that will boost it.

When you know how to seduce women into giving up that nut...then that's something you can take any where in the world with you.

Recently a fool on this site jake the chickenhead stoopidly thought I could only get pvssy in my own town. Stupid mistake.

In this photo I am wearing an outfit bought to me by an ex dancer in Vegas who now lives in Los Angels and is married to a rich white dude. As far as her dance does the name Bob Fossy mean anything to you.

http://www.sacscene.com/pn1/modules...ame=gallery&file=index&include=view_photo.php

When you can score pvssy it's a skill set that you can use anywhere in the world.


I can't wait to get to Europe and Aussy land down under next year...
Why the hell do you have to put up your damn picture in every thread like your some big shot or something? Your 44 years old, and you still haven't found a quality women. Man, I pity your pathetic @$$. You are NARCISSTIC, and pretty much all you've provided for the last month is "look at me in this pic", "you gotta be like this (link to pic)", "i'm a pimp (link to pic)." Provide some quality advice or STFU.
 

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eh, sort of

Sex is great, but it's not the only source of confidence either.
Right now, I'm in the middle of a 10 month dry spell, but my confidence is pretty damn high. I just went back to school, am pulling straight A's, play hockey once a week (just posted my first shutout, I'm a goalie) and I feel good in general.
I'm not persuing women right now...just taking a break and enjoying my bachelorhood. BTW, by not being on the prowl, I'm saving some cash too :D .
 

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Dammit playa-supreme, would you stop posting pictures of that busted-ass porno-set fluffer ALL OVER tha damn place? :rolleyes: Just keep it to one thread, if you must!



I would rate that ho' a focken FIVE. Her dye job is awful (focken roots are showin'), and she's obvious gettin' old. Her wrinkles are starting to show. I think I've seen hotter mannequins in department stores. :D
 

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Sorry to bring up an old thread but this exactly what I'm going though now.
Originally posted by crackhead

...This goes not for sex only, but consistent sex, yes, plenty of it; and experience overall. I experienced a similar surge of confidence 5-6 years ago, but sadly, it eventually went away, slowly destroyed by a harsh drought of my **** not being wet inside juicy, delightful vaginas. Sexual deprivation is a tough thing for the male psyche to deal with.
I haven't had sex in three days, I have no idea when I'll have it again and its killing me. For the past one and a half days I have had feelings of depression, mental anguish, lack of confedence and right now I have a headaque. I think I feel worse now then I did when I was a virgin.

The day after I got laid I was feeling super confedeint. The day after that I was really horny looking forward to my next lay, hoping for the booty call. It never happened and here I am now, sad and worried that it will never happen again. I also haven't masturbated since the day before sex because I don't know if it will hurt or help with what I'm going though now.

Is there anything I can do to get rid of the deperssion? At the state I'm in now I don't have a chance at approching girls. The only option I have for sex is the woman would call me but I don't see it happening till the weekend. I really want to feel "normal" again and I don't know how to do it by my self.
 
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