"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sex: Her first time...

t0mCaT

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I've been a long time lurker, and never really had to post because I found all I needed using the search buttons, except for this.

There probably are many similar threads, but I couldn't find any. Possibly because the search keywords are just too plentyful to narrow me down to any good threads. So reply to this with your opinion, or direct me to a thread you know. Both are appreciated.

Onwards!

Simply put, she's a virgin. She didn't say anything initially, but the first time I fingered her (1st date, actually...) I felt the hymen and knew not from experience, but from what I read and learned that she's a virgin. That made me slow down and take things from a bit of a distance. Well, a few months later my suspicions were confirmed when we spoke deeply and she came out and said she was a virgin.

Then, especially lately after I've practiced some of David Shades hypnosis techniques to enhance her orgasms during sex not involving intercourse, she's been really talking and begging me to -ahem- "take her". Well, I love her, and have been with her long enough to go for it, but I've never slept with a virgin before.

So while my question may seem a bit, strange, please just leave clever responses. Medical facts and quoted proffesionals are even more welcome.

Now, to the question: How do you maximise the moment for her on her first time? It's common sense I'm not gonna turn this into a quickie in my car, or a shag in an empty cubicle at the local mall's restroom. And fella's, the candles/music thing is not AFC. And if anyone even says that word I'm going to ignore the rest of your post :)

Anyway, I digress. So what key points should I focus on to make sure she feels the best she possibly could?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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blinkwatt

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Just reassure her that she is beautiful and caress her. Don't get out of control,kinda of like a "break-in" peroid on a car. Its going to be weird for her,just stay in control and be a man,you'll be fine.
 

t0mCaT

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blinkwatt said:
Just reassure her that she is beautiful and caress her. Don't get out of control,kinda of like a "break-in" peroid on a car. Its going to be weird for her,just stay in control and be a man,you'll be fine.
Well, that's a given.

Though specifically I was wondering if anyone had anything to say about how she'll react to when her hymen breaks. In most cases, I think, hymens can tear though so little as the use of tampons. But her's hasn't yet. I'm assuming it'll be a tad bit worse for her... and the last thing I want is any tears on that night.

*chuckles* ...or the blood... Eh, nasty stories there.
 

Shiftkey

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If you both care about each other, that's more than enough to give her a good first time. Just make sure it happens at a place where you won't be interupted and you're not in a hurry. If you're worryed about causing her physical pain from the hymen breaking, warn her ahead of time. There's really not much you can do aside from making her so turned on that she doesn't care about the pain.

But be prepared for her to be super clingy (from what I've heard, I'm not an experienced de-virginizer lol).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Freddy1

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t0mCaT said:
I've been a long time lurker, and never really had to post because I found all I needed using the search buttons, except for this.

There probably are many similar threads, but I couldn't find any. Possibly because the search keywords are just too plentyful to narrow me down to any good threads. So reply to this with your opinion, or direct me to a thread you know. Both are appreciated.

Onwards!

Simply put, she's a virgin. She didn't say anything initially, but the first time I fingered her (1st date, actually...) I felt the hymen and knew not from experience, but from what I read and learned that she's a virgin. That made me slow down and take things from a bit of a distance. Well, a few months later my suspicions were confirmed when we spoke deeply and she came out and said she was a virgin.

Then, especially lately after I've practiced some of David Shades hypnosis techniques to enhance her orgasms during sex not involving intercourse, she's been really talking and begging me to -ahem- "take her". Well, I love her, and have been with her long enough to go for it, but I've never slept with a virgin before.

So while my question may seem a bit, strange, please just leave clever responses. Medical facts and quoted proffesionals are even more welcome.

Now, to the question: How do you maximise the moment for her on her first time? It's common sense I'm not gonna turn this into a quickie in my car, or a shag in an empty cubicle at the local mall's restroom. And fella's, the candles/music thing is not AFC. And if anyone even says that word I'm going to ignore the rest of your post :)

Anyway, I digress. So what key points should I focus on to make sure she feels the best she possibly could?

Just be gentle with her.
Dont break her heart either.

(p.s. dont forget birth control.)

Good luck

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Phyzzle

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It will hurt and be annoying.

Some cultures have professional virginity takers, because future husbands don't want to do that dirty work.

Expect heavy groaning, go gentle, don't expect climaxes the 1st time.
 

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Phyzzle said:
Some cultures have professional virginity takers, because future husbands don't want to do that dirty work.
hmm.. I was looking for a summer job
 

Gangster Of Love

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Expect her to know nothing, and you do all the work. It will hurt, but just when you penetrate her at first. Pop her and get it over with. It is like asking the dentist to take it slow on a tootache that needs to come out. No, just do it and then enjoy. You will be a blood mess, so have a tower under her. She will most likely continue bleeding the next few times she has sex again. The blood has a different color and texture than her normal period blood. She needs to know that, so she won't freak out about bleeding even after she has done it a few times.

Have her very turned on and do lots of foreplay before you charge. She should be the one begging for you to go in.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MacDiddy

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just fcuk her and see what happens.... too many fish in the sea to worry about creating the ultimate dream come true for her...

I suspect she won't be the first virg in your 'new' DJ life, so dont be such a pansy.... Do her hard and good, and get maximun joy from it for yourself (this is key - you don't want to have any guilt trip coz she won't be enjoying it)
 
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