"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Sex changes everything?

guitaronfire411

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At almost the age of 26, I just got laid for the first time. (Yes, it's taken forever!)

I remember reading in the past on here that once you **** a women, the relationship changes. In my case, I just ****ed my ex-girlfriend for the first time.... she was being a ***** a month or so ago (see my most recent threads for info, but I dumped her for not being affectionate enough.)

Someone wrote that the girl treats you like you just climbed Mount Everest. This girl seems to be slightly more open than before, but since it is only an hour or so later, i think it's too soon to say anything. She said that the sex was 'okay' which doesn't promising to me, but I wouldn't know.

So does having sex change everything? Anyone know of any older posts that will help me with my situation?

Thanks!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sometimes, sometimes not. For some people sex really is like Mt. Everest...but after you've climbed mt. everest a few hundred times it's not such a big deal anymore...at 26 most people are pretty used to it.
 

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What does she mean by the sex was "okay"? When a girl says it sex was okay, they general imply it was "not good' to their satisfactory. Why did you even bother asking for her opinion on it anyway?
 

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Is there a difference between saying the sex was "good" compared to "ok"?
 

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Man, don't ask a chick ever how the sex was...it smacks of insecurity. You can ask her what she especially liked or even better you NOTICE what she likes and later you can say, playfully, 'I know you loved it when I did' (whatever complete the sentence yourself).
It's important to talk about sex openly with a chick you are getting it on with regularly, but dont ever say 'how was it?'.
You still gotta be a man with game even after you just fvcked her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i think it depends on how meaningful it is to the guy/girl. If your a person that only has sex in relationships and usually have ltr then i believe yes, that once you have sex everything changes.

Now if you just fvck a lot of random guys/girls it doesn't mean anything to you and its just another release.

Besides that, girls also use their pvssy as a weapon. They will give it to you to keep you, pull you back, make you do stuff, etc.
 

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In this case, she says that she hasn't had sex for a very long time and she was incredibly tight before when I fingered her a month-ish ago and last night when we finally got it on.

If you go by what she has said, she has said that some guys she's been with and never put out even at the 12-month mark. She said that a week or so ago to reassure me, which I just ignored. She has said that she has had her heart broken three times, but who knows? Guys always break-up with her or once her bf shagged her best friend because she wouldn't put out. She comes from a small town that's about 20 hours away.

It depends on how cynical you want to be. I know that women will always want to be the victim...

P.S. I talked to her this morning and said that the first time with a new partner it's always different. She sort of agreed and said that she hadn't been ****ed for so long. So I suggested that we keep an open line of communication and to tell me what she likes/dislikes about sex.
 

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she's your ex? if you guys are talking like this y aren't you dating? if she is your ex don't mind too much and just keep meeting chicks so you don't get too attached.
 

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She's my ex and we haven't really said anything about seeing each other again for the last few weeks directly. She told me how her aunt knew that we were seeing each other again about a weekish ago and that's it.

She lives in Thunder Bay, which is about 20 hours away. After April, she's going back home and has said that she won't be back in Ottawa until Xmas 2009. Of course, this was before we messed around last night.
 

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If you give her great orgasmic sex, she'll likely be more available-easier to date etc. Then the power of the Pu$$y gives way to the power of the P@cker. Women are even more interested in sex than men are,but they don't find men who can do them right very often. When they do- they hang on for awhile-unless you have nothing else going on in your life
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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