I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This may sound outrageous to the less monogamous types but I actively train myself to only desire sex with my chick. I don't watch porn, I don't look at erotic images, I don't fantasize about other women, my only sexual outlet comes from my chick so it becomes a hell of a lot easier to stay interested in her.Yo'Mama said:
I don't see a problem with making getting better with women a priority. If it's something that's bothering you and you really want to get it handled then go ahead and do something about it.
well maybe I've been brain-washed the wrong way, it's because according to David Deida in the book titled "The way of the Superior Man", he states that your Purpose must come before your relationship, I assume he is also implying while you are single as well, so that's where i'm getting at, and yes I'm working with David Wygant, that's me taking action and doing something about it, it's just I want to make sure I don't enter into desperation territoryJoeMarron said: