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Sex and Confidence

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Recently ive been becoming more busy with things in my life and that has cut down on my Girl time. So basicly i use to have sex twice a week now maybe once a month. Since i been having sex once a month i noticed that i am slowly losing confidence im finding it harder to approch gorgeous rich women. This is what brought me to the conclusion that if you are having sex with women and/or going out with women often your confidence in approching new women is alot higher.

So now i have a plan and i starts today. Im going to approch all my ex gfs this week and start dating some of them again. So by the end of this week i plan the be having sex 4-5 days out of 7days a week. If my theory is right after this week i should feel invincible when approching women...........what do you guys think?
 

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She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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too much sex can also make you weak....like when i have a boxing match im not allowed to have sex for like a week or week and a half before the match...but 4-5 times a week sounds good, lean more on the 4 times a week tho. are you planning on having all this sex with the same girl?
 

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Well sex is the ultimate validation for a guy, so yeah, I would say a constant supply of it is one heck of a confidence booster.
 

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Originally posted by Black_Italian

Im going to approch all my ex gfs this week and start dating some of them again. So by the end of this week i plan the be having sex 4-5 days out of 7days a week. If my theory is right after this week i should feel invincible when approching women...........what do you guys think?

I think (re)dating an ex is a bad idea. There's reasons they're your ex...if it's just a booty call and you think you can handle keeping it purely sex, go for it. Not alot of guys can.

Really, there's so many girls out there, you shouldn't have to recycle. Why don't you just go do some cold approaches, get some numbers, hook up, bump up your skills, bro?
 

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Originally posted by I'm Joe Dirt
Well sex is the ultimate validation for a guy, so yeah, I would say a constant supply of it is one heck of a confidence booster.
I don't really agree with this. Sure, on some primitive level, sex makes you feel like the sh*t, but that kinda confidence doesn't last. Go out and do something with your life. that will make you confident.
 

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Well have you noticed how after sex you feel on top of the world?

It clears your head and you can think clearly and it DOES give you more confidence, at the very least it makes you feel comfortable with who you are. Of course the effects wear off at different times for different people and then you need another dose.

So yeah, it is a form of validation, and if you get it often you will feel better about yourself.
 

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I see the point about recycling BUT i dont want to bring al new women into my life atm im looking for a gf and to find my ideal gf i need more confidence thats were this idea stems from. (my ideal girl is a funny,cool short black haired rich girl) and rich girls are just that lil bit harder to approch.

I had a slow start today i approched 2 of my exes one walks home from school next to my house shes 17 i pretended i just ran into her got her new number. The other one works at target so i walked in and just talked to her shes got a bf now or so she says. I got her number anyway. Tomorrow im approching 4 more.

Do you think ex GFs when you talk to them they say yeh i have a BF to make you jelous. Even if she does it doesnt matter lol il still fu*k her.
 
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