"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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sex ahhh wtf? PLEASE HELP

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Im 18 my g/f is 16. Last night was my senior prom and me and my girlfriend stayed over a friends house. My g.f is a virgin and i am too but i dont think she knows that i am. We were both pretty drunk when she says to me "you wanna have sex" and Im like "yeah" so I get her turned on by fingering her and giving her oral but i dont think i got her wet enough... problem was I couldnt get my dong in her - she ways like 95lbs and is really tight and it hurts her when I finger her with two fingers. I think I should have got her more loose by turning her on for alot longer, but i feel like such a retard... I tryed several times to fit it in but i couldnt, but i was really pretty drunk and we were in a small dark space with a small blanket over us that we couldnt take off so I couldnt get her legs up really for missionary position. Anyway after i try to get it in she says to me "I dont think im ready yet, im sorry" I was thinking damn what the f*ck. Luckily, i think she thinks it was her fault that the sex didnt work out. Any way WTF is wrong with me? is it that hard to but your d*ck in a chick. I need like an idiots guide for sex.

Next time i try..
1. I wont be drunk
2. ill turn her on for a good 30 minutes before and get her real wet
3. ill be alone with her


what else am i doing wrng PLEASE HELp
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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theNEWDJ said:
Im 18 my g/f is 16.
There you go man.

Your a fully mature 18 year old trying to **** a little 16 year old.

That's probally the problem.. I bet if she was 18 it would work. LOL

It's still legal though.
 
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uhh im 18 but im not that big at all hahaha i weigh like 145 and my dong isnt like huge, but looking on the bright side I think its a good thing that she wants to loose her virginity to me, and also the situation wasnt that awkward because i stayed with her all night and made her feel comfortable
 

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"uhm...well babe it appears my penis is too massive."

HAHAHA thats a good story. this may take a little bit of coaching...tell her she needs to learn about something called masturbation. and definetly working out her out more beforehand wouldve helped. also...its gonna hurt her. she knows it, you should too. if it feels too tight, well just enjoy it and hope she isnt in too much pain.

take a viagra before and you'll be hard enough to screw dry cement :yes:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i dunno why this got moved
 

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also, where can i get KY jelly and how long do u think i should wait before trying sex again?
 

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you guys think this will bring us more together as a couple haha?
also about the whole drinking thing - she is like all over me when shes drunk which was onlytwice
 

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I suggest taking her on a date she would think is romantic, and renting a motel room if you both live with parents (say it's just for you because 16 year olds can't legally do that). You'll get bonus points if you do the whole "sprinkle rose pettles on the bed ahead of time thing." Give her a full body massage with oil or skin lotion.

You didn't mention protection. I highly recommend using a condom because pulling out is not reliable enough (or at all with STDs). Preferably you've both been tested for STDs already, and she's on the pill. If you've never used a condom before, put one on alone just to test it out, so you know what you're doing when you're with her.

also, where can i get KY jelly and how long do u think i should wait before trying sex again?
Talk to her about it and ask her when she wants to try again.

You can get lube from sex shops and some department stores.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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what department stores like walmart haha? and i did use a condom when i tried the other night, but u think we should still get tested for an std if were both virgins isnt that impossible to have an std?
 

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oh also about talking to her about it, i really want to talk alot about it but doesnt that kind of ruin the whole spontaneous thing and if i come out saying all kinds of sex stuff it might seem desperate and she'll know how bad i want it
 

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theNEWDJ said:
what department stores like walmart haha? and i did use a condom when i tried the other night, but u think we should still get tested for an std if were both virgins isnt that impossible to have an std?
She could be lying, or she could've gotten an STD from something other than sex. You can get STDs from drugs (needles), oral sex, birth if your parents had STDs, and hospital mistakes. There's even a STD you can get from a toilet seat. It would also put her at ease to know you have no STDs.

I don't know exactly what stores have it. It's something you have to investigate for yourself, because it's likely something that depends on how conservative your area is.

oh also about talking to her about it, i really want to talk alot about it but doesnt that kind of ruin the whole spontaneous thing and if i come out saying all kinds of sex stuff it might seem desperate and she'll know how bad i want it
It all depends on if you can handle holding a mature conversation. Depending on how you approach it, you can come across as desparate or confident. It's just something you have to learn with experience. If she's your girlfriend it shouldn't be much of an issue - it sounds like she wants it as much as you. Know ahead of time that you'll probably say something stupid, and accept that fact.
 

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HAHA, dont worry mate!! You are just begginer having sex with a child!! Thats nothing to be ashamed about. And ya, lol thank lord she said she wasnt ready, i bet you didnt even had a condom?/ YOU SICK SON OF A *****, TRIED TO GET AN INNOCENT GIRL PREGNANT!! good luck next time :)
 

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shydude - yes i did use a condom look up a couple posts

thanks for everyones help im starting to feel a little better about the situation after reading some info of other people who had the same problem haha
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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my friend told me the best position for a really tight girl is from behind like when shes on her knees, is this true?
 
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