Sex Advise Needed

[Loki.7]

It's been a long time since I'v had sex, last time it was a complete disaster, I ended up having a panic attack loosing my boner and all in all I had a terrible time.

It put me off sex and iv avoided in since, it makes me anxious and panicky thinking about it.... yeah stupid i know... But hey it's done all in the past now.


Anyways.... Here is my situation.

In two weeks iv got a girl flying over to see me to stay with me for a few days. There is a huge connection between us. So I'm pretty chilled about it all it's not like I'm going to be banging some complete stranger, she also knows about how panicky i got before and the whole i was off sex thing.

Long story short im basically throwing myself into the deep end. It feels like its going o be e first time again, it's been so long!!!


This girl is extremely beutiful and completely head over heels for me. Anyways lots of very kinky stuff is probably going to happen and its going to be very far from vanilla sex.


I just need a little advise on how to keep chilled and grounded. I sometimes tend to get drawn into my own head and that's not a good combination.

 

[Loki.7]

Oh yeah... And how safe is a coil. I know it offers no protection from std's obviously.

Risk of pregnancy?

 

[Chamber36]

If you get anxious from sex in general, why would you want to be doing "very kinky stuff"?

Why don't you just start off slow?

First you make out, then you feel her up a bit, feel up her titties, try and take off her pants. She might put up a resistance, then you just kiss more and make her real hot and horny.

Just go for the pvssy, put your weener inside and fvck it. If your weener is not hard, then the girl is not good enough for you. She has to be hot enough to turn you on.

 

[EvilSpirit22]

Your problem is that you're thinking too much. You don't need to focus on your performance. Just live the moment and try to enjoy yourself.

The more you focus on satisfying her, more the pressure would be on you.


Stay in the moment Enjoy the pleasure.


Use your tongue to satisfy her if you want to. And yeah extend the foreplay. Play with her body talk to her while caressing her body and just be comfortable because sex is a natural thing and just appreciate the thing that YOU ARE GETTING LAID.

 

[Loki.7]

If you get anxious from sex in general, why would you want to be doing "very kinky stuff"?

Why don't you just start off slow?

First you make out, then you feel her up a bit, feel up her titties, try and take off her pants. She might put up a resistance, then you just kiss more and make her real hot and horny.

Just go for the pvssy, put your weener inside and fvck it. If your weener is not hard, then the girl is not good enough for you. She has to be hot enough to turn you on.

I get anxious yes and I'm a bit broken..... But my true self want to go bad stuff to her and she will love it.

 

[Loki.7]

Your problem is that you're thinking too much. You don't need to focus on your performance. Just live the moment and try to enjoy yourself.

The more you focus on satisfying her, more the pressure would be on you.


Stay in the moment Enjoy the pleasure.


Use your tongue to satisfy her if you want to. And yeah extend the foreplay. Play with her body talk to her while caressing her body and just be comfortable because sex is a natural thing and just appreciate the thing that YOU ARE GETTING LAID.

Yeah man good advise right there.... It's all a self inflicted head **** i suppose. Maybe I'll just go yoga and meditate each day, try get grounded and out my own head as much as I can.

The woman I'm talking about gets off on trying to please me, keeps going on about its not about her and that she wants to fulfil my every desire when she's here. Hand on heart she would do anything I told her to.

So I will be in control of the whole thing.... I don't know if that's a good or bad thing.

Another bonus, she's never been able to *** with anything inside here. She said she loves getting ****ed but is unable to *** like that... So zero pressure on my in that department.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

I don't know man, no offense but you're kind of all over the place here. You're obviously very anxious and nervous about having sex, but then you go on to say how kinky it's going to be and how much she loves being submissive.

You need to relax, scale back your expectations and take things slow. It's not a bad thing to have "regular" sex with her at first just to get your confidence and comfort level up, you can always build up to the really kinky and dirty stuff later on in her stay.

Be a man, realize deep down she's probably just as nervous as you are. Girls can be pretty self-conscious the first time they get naked with a guy, no matter how big of a game they talk over the phone.

 

[Fireballs]

Go to the Doc and tell him you get performance anxiety and want something to help get your confidence back. Cialis is the best IMO.

 

[Poon King]

Why are you making sex such a big deal? Sex is one of the easiest things in the world to get. So what is there to be anxious about? HER JUDGEMENT? Please.. you're the male. If you're not good enough for her.. then she isn't good enough for you.

Just enjoy the sex.

 

[Loki.7]

Ok.... Thanks for the advise. She's been and gone now and it was really good.

Done lots of kinky dirty stuff and I was completly out my head the whole time, i suprised myself. So thinking im finally over my sex anxiety. She was very happy too, she said she's never been ****ed so much or had some many things done to her in her whole life. Keeps texting my how sore her ***** now is and how much she loves it and it makes her think of me.

Anyways she's already booking a flight to come see me again for a few days at the end of this month.

Now my anxieties are out the way it can get better and better....

Areas i would like to improve....

*I was cumming a bit fast..... Not much I could do about it really but I would like to last longer. She said she loved this, but for my own enjoyment I want to last longer. Advise please.....

*Any good sex books, I can read on positions and stuff. I want nothing too detailed I don't exactly want to become all robotic. I just want to get a bit better at ****ing......

* anyone into tying up spanking, whipping, playful punishing a girl if she does not do what I want. I want this but want to keep it serious and not a joke, but on the other hand not cheesy ridonkculas either. I want to be really really dominate and sometimes get her to treat me like I'm her master in the bedroom. I kinda want to prance around like im the king and your my slut, im going to do as you as I wish kinda thing...... Only sometimes though, I really love the all googly eyed intimate stuff too.

* also if I stick my fist in her ***** will it stretch if for good, I was kinda doing this but felt she was reaching her limit so backed off a bit. She said it was the best things ever and she loved it, I think she wanted all off it inside alough she said its somthing she would not let anyone do. Anyways I kinda want to do this too her, but I don't want to hurt or damage. Tips please...

* She has a Coil fitted in her *****, does this mean I can *** in her ***** and she won't get pregnant? How reliable are they?

 

[Loki.7]

Anyone? Must be some really dominate guys in the bedroom here.... I want to really get into it.....

 

[Zion]

I could give you a complete rundown on the best snowboarding techniques out there but you'll still faceplant the moment you get on the board just like any other novice rider.

Point is, knowledge is useless without referential experience and some courage.

You need referential experience. You learn by doing. Sure you can read some stuff up but ultimately sex is an artform and there's no cookie cutter method to doing it right. What a girl will absolutely hate, the other will love. Compatibility is a huge factor.

 

[Bible_Belt]

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[Yewki]

* also if I stick my fist in her ***** will it stretch if for good, I was kinda doing this but felt she was reaching her limit so backed off a bit. She said it was the best things ever and she loved it, I think she wanted all off it inside alough she said its somthing she would not let anyone do.

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