sex addict

[Jay-X]

i consider myself pretty good in everything, i have a really beautiful and loving girlfriend, funny friends, good grades, a really nice body and i feel good overall. my main problem is that i can't help but talking about sex. even my girlfriend is a bit annoyed by this and asks me why i always talk about it (sometimes i grabbed her tits while walking in the streets).

my close friends are not disturbed by that at all, since they are maybe more pervert than me

yet, my classmates consider me a sex addict, since i have done almost anything and i can't stop talking about sex related issues... they know that i'm a knowledgeable and really clever person, but i can see that they are somehow p1ssed about it (not REALLY p1ssed, just a bit shocked)

should i change this habit? gimme some tips if you think so




for pook: i'm calling you man, gimme some pearls of your wisdom

 

[thefonz]

If you're that low on problems why don't I lend you some of mine....

How bout this......try not talking about sex for 2 weeks and see how it goes, this will be a life experiment to see how things around you change when you alter habits and parts of your personality. It could be your friends aren't getting any or are discouraged with their own sexual escapades that they get annoyed when you constantly bring up sex

I have a buddy that after he picked up a smoking hot girlfriend would talk for literally over an HOUR about EVERY SINGLE detail everytime we met up about having sex with this girl.....It annoyed the crap out of me cus 1. I could have been the one banging her myself (another story) but MAINLY cus 2. I wasn't getting any and didn't wanna talk about him getting some.I think he spent a good 10 minutes trying to detail every exact nook and cranny of her *****. I tried to act interested, but deep down I was really uncomfortable and annoyed cus it was a conversation I couldn't participate in. Who knows, maybe it's the same for the people you're talking to.....be more empathetic

 

[undesputable]

how old are you? 17....at this age thats just how it is. i congratulate you for letting your sex desires out and not holding them back...holding them back would be like a man trying to apologize for his own testosterone, a real man doesnt do that. however you must keep moderation, i know is hard but remeber that sex is good, but a lot of sex can make you weak. youre not a sex addict just bc you like to talk about kinky stuff, you would be a sex addict if you had sex with your girl 5 times a day and then masturbated another 5 times a day, that would be addiction. try to limit your sex intake to only 3 or 4 times a week. It also takes a real man to control his sexual drive.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

If a girl is addicted to sex then she is a "nymphomaniac", if a guy is addicted to sex then he is merely labeled a "maniac"!

 

[Jay-X]

the fact is... i don't even go crazy when i don't do it... i haven't been doing for the last 3 days and i'm perfectly ok... sometimes i even go on without it for a week and i don't feel bad at all.
i masturbate a lot, ok, but i usually masturbate even when i do it... anyway, this is not the problem...
one of the guys that get more pùssy in my town admitted masturbating even 6 times a day and nobody has ever referred to him as a sex addict...
unfortunately, what gives you that nickname is talking a lot about it...

now, the problem is:

i could follow thefonz's advice and try not to talk about it for 2 weeks... i bet that it wouldn't be too big of a problem, but what about "not fearing to be a man"?! i can't get this... ok, i'm overanalyzing, but don't worry about it... just tell me what you would do in my situation...

i would also like to hear pook on this (since he wrote lots of posts about not being sorry for your sexual desire...

anyway, anyone answer this:

would you rather try to talk less about it or would you go on like this, talking about it whenever it comes to your mind?

 

[undesputable]

haha if i talked about sex everytime it came to mind, i would not be talking about anything but sex...yes that can bad, unless you have a girl who talks about sex nonstop too. you can either hold it back or control it....In my opinion theres a difference between the two, a very subtle one. Holding back......control......if you looked up both in a thesaurus they might be listed as synonyms. However think of holding back as forcing yourself to not let it out, bc of what other might say, therefore it might mean apologizing for your sexual desires; Not good...

The sex drive is a very powerful force, i read somewhere that Aristotle, in his later years when his sex drive diminished he said "i feel like ive been released from 2 powerful claws." Yes a powerful sex drive makes a man, but the one that has control over it, doesnt let his testosterone control him, but he controls his testoterone, thats the one thats more of a man.

If you didnt get anything i just wrote, i dont blame you...i had a hard time expressing my thoughts on this matter.

 

[Jay-X]

i think you've been pretty clear, so i'll follow your advice, thank you man!