"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Severe Problems!

illmatic1005

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i met this girl last year who i didnt really care for..but after we hung out for a while, i started to develop interest in her...shes about an HB 8.5 but shes really fun and stuff....i still didnt care that much for her until recently when i started acting sexual in her and she did the same...
shes a typically girl who talks about guys and whatever but i was with her friends and her friends said im but and she said "chill, hes mine"...but we never went past flirting still

we hung out by ourselves with people and everything and she is such a fun/flirty girl but we never do anything(sexually)..no hook ups or anything

THE PROBLEM IS..i always think maybe i'll never be a true don juan if i cant get with a girl who is this interested in me...just last night i couldnt sleep i was thinking about her all night and how nothing happens between us, even tho we both want it to happen...

She tells me my looks intimidate her i am thinking she is just to shy/embarrased to do anything..

i never usually get AFC-ish or one-itis like this but i can never stop thinking why nothing happens(its been like 6 months of us both wanting some fun)..i always think of someone better than me coming along and destroying her virginity(which is what i want) and i just get deeper into a whole..

What can i say to her to escalate things physically?
What can i do?
(keep in mine i have a lot of other prospects too but i really want this girl and keep thiking about us 24/7 and i feel like i rather die than feel this way)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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comic_relief

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How about you just escalate it without saying anything.

I remember when I first started to see my current girlfriend, we were hanging out and I put my arm around her to bring her in closer to me (as a friendly thing) and she moved closer to me to nuzzle in my shoulder (a big IOI). That night, I moved in for a kiss and got it.

If you would like to move the relationship from friendship (or whatever it is) to lovers than you have to take risks.

besides would you rather regret not doing anything or know if it is possible?

comic_relief
 

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Comics right just escalate while saying nothing, make sure the moods right and she should be receptive, If not next her.
 

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i think you can also use humor ...
nothing like letting down the intimidation shield by laughing ...
 

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illmatic1005 said:
i still didnt care that much for her until recently when i started acting sexual in her and she did the same...

what does "sexual in her" mean?

last night i couldnt sleep i was thinking about her all night and how nothing happens between us, even tho we both want it to happen...

if you both wanted it to happen, it would have happened. It's the girl who decides when you have sex, not you. If she doesn't want it, no amount of praying will get you the sex

She tells me my looks intimidate her i am thinking she is just to shy/embarrased to do anything..

LOL. OK.


i rather die than feel this way

I suggest you die. Then you won't have to feel this way.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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