setting yourself up for failure

[Luthor Rex]

I'm not writing this thread because I want advice. I'm writing this thread as a warning sign to other men. A friend of mine, let's call him "AntiPook" is setting himself up for epic failure. He is making himself out to be a lesson we can all learn from.

Last year AntiPook met a girl who was a friend of a friend. He liked her so much he decided to move out of state to be with her. They only knew one another for about six months before they moved in together. She is in her early 20's, has been divorced twice and has one child by each previous husband. Her last divorce was only about three months before they moved in together. This guy should know better, he's in his early 30's and has been witness to other people screwing their lives up like this.

Now he is buying her a house.

Soon he will be buying a house that he will move her and her two children into. Both his name and her name will be on the deed to the house. Only his name will be on the mortgage.

Y'all can see where this is going, right?

I realize there is nothing I can do for him. When I've tried to talk about it with him he either blows me off or becomes angry. So there's really no point in pushing the matter.

A man in his 30's should know better than this. I'm watching this whole thing go down just like that old move "The Exorcist": "The power of the vagina compels you! The power of the vagina compels you!"

So this is a warning to every man who reads this post: don't let the power of the vagina compel you!

Like V.U. has said: "Whatever you can't say NO to is your master, and you are its SLAVE."

 

[Wiesman44]

its tough to understand a persons values or morals only knowing them for 3 months. I read somewhere that it generally takes a year of dating somebody, before they become comfortable enough with you that they start to show some traits / characteristics that they were too embarassed to show, or traits they were hiding from you.

Its odd that somebody with 30+ years on the planet doesn't know that trusting a woman with your financials assets, especially someone you've only known for a short period of time, is a bad thing. He certainly doesn't have the odds on his side.

 

[Luthor Rex]

its tough to understand a persons values or morals only knowing them for 3 months. I read somewhere that it generally takes a year of dating somebody, before they become comfortable enough with you that they start to show some traits / characteristics that they were too embarassed to show, or traits they were hiding from you.

Exactly! Before he moved in with her I tried to talk him out of it "you guys have only really been together for 3 months" and "don't you think it's too fast" etc. He didn't want to hear any of it. He thinks they are so super compatible that the rules must not apply to them.

Its odd that somebody with 30+ years on the planet doesn't know that trusting a woman with your financials assets, especially someone you've only known for a short period of time, is a bad thing. He certainly doesn't have the odds on his side.

It's not like he's a dumb guy either. He's seen enough good and bad relationships to know better than what he's doing now.

"The power of the vagina compels you!"

 

[Da Realist]

All I have to say is that she must have some good stuff.