"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Setting your sights on your career

Lion

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How have you gone about choosing your role? What made you decide what you're doing?


I am inspired by people around me, doing things they want to do and suceeding because they have the desire to see it through, train in areas they are weak in and make it happen.

I have a good job working as a project engineer with a great team of people. Work is thin on the ground and I realise I am lucky to have a job in this economic climate.

I need to decide what I want to be doing for the next 5 years.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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3countriesPlan

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Ya, I need to decide what I will be doing too...
I'm a mid level sales manager and it is nice to chat with clients and all but I hate the rest of the job.. currently considering whether to move across the border to Hong Kong.
 

The Bat

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"Choose a job that you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life."
 

j0n024

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funny I just decided my future today.

I went today and got my summer classes schedule today and class starts 26.

I will be going for my masters of physical therapy so I suppose I will be in school for 6 years unless something happens or society goes in the toilet.

I might also be moving back in with my paretnts to lower costs and make it easier but that has yet to be seen but other then that I will be focusing 100% on school.
 

PRMoon

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My career was decided a long time ago. As soon as I got into my first night club, I was hooked. Now I don't really work persay. I just encourage other people to do what I've done and hang out most of the day.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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RazorAzoth

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PRMoon said:
My career was decided a long time ago. As soon as I got into my first night club, I was hooked. Now I don't really work persay. I just encourage other people to do what I've done and hang out most of the day.
What do you do? Run a nightclub?
 

Hughman

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I've pretty much know what I've wanted to do since I entered secondary school - medicine. And I'm not planning on being some lazy GP either, I'm going all the way, politics, adviser to tribunals/QCs, Chief of Staff, you name it. My career will always take priority over everything else, unless I can compromise in a way that still benefits me.
 

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The Bat said:
"Choose a job that you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life."
This is what I did, now I live my dream job and work with some of the best in my business I have ever met. Inspiring.

I am a futures trader and work about 2 hours a day these days.
 

Teflon_Mcgee

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Gaucho said:
This is what I did, now I live my dream job and work with some of the best in my business I have ever met. Inspiring.

I am a futures trader and work about 2 hours a day these days.
What was your path to get to where you got?

I've been interested in this since I was a little kid.
Even though I love engineering (and it is a dream job) I really always saw myself as a trader. I just don't know where to start. And I mean formal education.
 

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Unfortunately it didn't hit me till later in life. It's tough to decide your future right out of high school. In college I started with Physical Therapy and then did a complete switch to Computer Science. I got offered a great job out of college and snatched it up.

Although, I make good money it wasn't till a few years ago that I realized this isn't what I want out of life. The long hours, commute to work and answering to someone else just weren't for me. Although, I am still there I have begun working on a business plan and things have been increasingly getting better. I hope the money I am generating from my side business will allow me to leave my other job within the next year.

Although I have failed many times in my Internet Marketing attempts, those failures have taught me plenty and I am now making good money through my websites, blogs and Twitter and am happy with what I do.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ready123

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I think there are those who always knew what they wanted to do and those who have no clue what they want to do. If you can identify your dream job and your just out of high school, you're in the former and personally I think you're lucky.

I'm in the latter and I fleshed out what I wanted from a career by jumping in the deep end repeatedly so to speak. I'm an electrical engineer now and much of what I enjoy about my current job has as much to do with the lifestyle it allows me to have as it does with the technical work. I don't have overtime, I get to interact with a ton of people, I don't have to deal with stress, I get to travel sparingly, I'm on a 9/80 schedule, etc.

And Lion, why only the next 5 years? Why not figure out what you'd wanna be doing for the rest of your life and go straight there?
 

Gaucho

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Teflon_Mcgee said:
What was your path to get to where you got?

I've been interested in this since I was a little kid.
Even though I love engineering (and it is a dream job) I really always saw myself as a trader. I just don't know where to start. And I mean formal education.
I always enjoyed trading as a kid, with the odd gamble in stocks.

Went to University and studied a degree in Economics and a degree in Management, along with much of my own study into 'value investing' to understand the global macro and fundamentals of the system.

Then studied how to read charts and really got into trading, making hundreds in my own account.

Worked as a Financial Analyst with the Treasury in budgets to understand more detail on fiscal expenditure and breakdown of company reports and financial statements.

Used this knowledge and passion to apply for a leading Futures Trading firm, of which I now trade a relatively large account.

If you know what you want to do, you have to start at the bottom, do everything you can to achieve it and then you can live your dream. Not easy, but definately possible and is the measure of a true man IMVHO.

Final step for me: Open a hedge fund of my own, with my own money as a large sum of the funds to begin with.
 

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RazorAzoth said:
What do you do? Run a nightclub?
Eventually I probobly will. Right now I manage a fantastic team of promoters and host. I've been in the indstry in one way or another since I was 23. I met some great people with lots of money an some ideas about a year ago and now I'm a GM for their company. I handle marketing, team building, and hiring. I don't even work much longer then I did when I worked while at the MGM Grand, but concidering the difference I make, I'd do it anyway for even pay.
 
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