Setting up your plates

[Twodogs]

Gents,
I'm looking for advice on setting up plates, you know keeping them around while they know there are others.
A little back ground on me: I'm 38 former afc just starting to find my game. I was always a oneitis type dude until a had a stint with a BPD a couple of months back.
I didn't do too bad, got 3 months of mad sex and had enough brains to fvck her off when the real crazy **** started, got a little burnt but learnt about BPD and found this forum so all in all not a bad experience.
At the moment I've got one with high interest IRL and about 3 I'm setting things up with on POF.
I'll soon be escalating and I'm expecting the exclusivity chat, just wondering how you guys word it to keep them on the hook while still spinning the rest.
This is new to me, there's still enough nice guy in me that I don't want to lie or burn the bridges and be labelled a "player".
Any advice?

 

[RabidWolverine]

If they call you on it, reverse it back on her and say you felt like everything was moving along so well and natural.

Reversing it on her will make her maybe step back a little. Its no big deal though, youre just showing her a high valued guy that isnt going to jump into any relationship.

And I say screw the player thing, too.

 

[Twodogs]

Thought I'd post an update.
Well as expected the day game one balked when I made the move.
Wanted to know where this was going, if we could be classed as seeing each other etc.
I tried the "I'm not ready for a serous relationship line, blah blah" similar to what I found in this article.
http://www.badboylifestyle.com/****-buddy-relationship/
Pulled her close, kept escalating until I though she was good to go and she stopped again and put on the waterworks.
"I don't want to get hurt, I'm worried you're doing this with other girls. etc" (Last BF cheated on her)
I think this failure was a combination of things:
Mostly wrong type of girl, despite very high interest I knew she was going to be difficult to covert to FB.
Probably still a bit of AFC shining through and I should have set the scene a little earlier.

Thinking now I'll just park her in the FZ and see if she comes around on her own.
While not the most attractive she seems to be of high quality, there's been no games she's very driven and has her own business, is super fit with a great body.
We've got a lot in common and I've enjoyed going hiking and biking with her.
All is good, onto the next options.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

If there's one tip I would give, it's never leave your phone/laptop unlocked/logged-in etc etc, nor give the passcode away (even accidentally) then there's precious little chance of anyone finding out about anyone else.

But then there is power to be gained from being seen to be in contact with other chicks; it just has to be natural and not awkward-making.

While out, the moment at which it is time to disappear is when you're out with a girl and another one that you are involved with enters the same room. You'll start the day with 2(+n) plates, and end it with none(+n) (unless you are a particularly good negotiator. The last thing you want is them talking to each other, unless you are almost certain they would both entertain a threesome. With you.

Treat every single one like your GF and you can't go wrong.