"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Setting up a date.

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Which of these is better?

1. "What's your schedule like for the weekend?"
2. "What are you doing on X day at X time?"

I like the second one because it makes you seem less available (which we all know is a good thing) and also makes you come across as more dominant because you're "taking control", so to speak, but it seems to carry a higher risk of her not being able to make it because you're being so specific. The first one is less risky in that aspect, but it might make it seem like you're too available, or perhaps even too eager.

Any thoughts?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How about "Let's do ___________ X day at X time". Offer an engagement, don't request an appointment.
 
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"I'm doing X at Y time on Z date, would you like to join me?"
 
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^^ That's sort of what I've been doing already. Basically, after finding out if a girl is available for a certain time, I don't ASK her if she wants to chill, I tell her that we WILL chill at said time :D.
 
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My previous post was directed at S1NN3R, btw.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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