Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Originally posted by abbas
What can you do during the first 5-10 seconds of a phoneconversation (whether you are the caller, or the one beeing called) to set the tone for the rest of the conversation (who is the leader and who's not)?
Any type of neg hitting, c/f attitude....
Tell me what you've tried and what worked/didn't!
You don't need to overanalyze C/F in phone calls in my experience. Because women cannot see your facial expressions, too much C/F can be very ackward if she doesn't get it most of the time. I try to have fun with the call by being myself, and C/F usually flows smoothly without much effort. Make your approach to phone conversation very casual like you are BSing with a good friend about some private joke. Modify your intensity based on her response. If she laughs out loud, set the date and end the call quickly on a good note.Originally posted by Qmanchoo
...although a C/F comment ... as long as it's funny...would be ok in most cases.
C/F is for getting their emotions going, showing her that you're not intimidated by her, and that you are a fun guy, but shouldn't be used ALL the time IMO. Think of it as the salt on your steak dinner. I just haven't had the best responses when I've gone all out with C/F without having a good conversation about something or telling a great story...plus it's not part of my personality to act like that anyway.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.