Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Originally posted by abbas
What can you do during the first 5-10 seconds of a phoneconversation (whether you are the caller, or the one beeing called) to set the tone for the rest of the conversation (who is the leader and who's not)?
Any type of neg hitting, c/f attitude....
Tell me what you've tried and what worked/didn't!
You don't need to overanalyze C/F in phone calls in my experience. Because women cannot see your facial expressions, too much C/F can be very ackward if she doesn't get it most of the time. I try to have fun with the call by being myself, and C/F usually flows smoothly without much effort. Make your approach to phone conversation very casual like you are BSing with a good friend about some private joke. Modify your intensity based on her response. If she laughs out loud, set the date and end the call quickly on a good note.Originally posted by Qmanchoo
...although a C/F comment ... as long as it's funny...would be ok in most cases.
C/F is for getting their emotions going, showing her that you're not intimidated by her, and that you are a fun guy, but shouldn't be used ALL the time IMO. Think of it as the salt on your steak dinner. I just haven't had the best responses when I've gone all out with C/F without having a good conversation about something or telling a great story...plus it's not part of my personality to act like that anyway.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.