Setting the right frames in the beginning.

[Shootin4Dreams]

I am watching RSD shift and Julien says that the first time you have sex it has to be the best and kinky so it is set in the beginning how sex will be. Can i show the girl and have her use bondage set and all that too or is that too much and just do sex and try to make her squirt?

Also he said if you want a wingwomen after you have sex with her. Take her to the club and tell her that i do see us as potential down the road but right now we need to explore with each other. I doubt this works what do you guys think?

How do you know its ok to do these with any girl without her freaking out or being weird.

 

[dustmuffin]

It depends on the woman for bondage. There needs to be a level of trust. Spank her ass whip out the toys. Just do your best

 

[ubercat]

Not sure about bondage on a first bounce girl might be a bit worried about her physical safety. Maybe start with a vibrator or something.

 

[dustmuffin]

Not sure about bondage on a first bounce girl might be a bit worried about her physical safety. Maybe start with a vibrator or something.

You must establish trust first before bondage

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

i dont have vibrator

 

[macallik]

Can't tell if you are trolling or not. Bondage during the first time having sex is too much. Having good sex isn't just about tying someone up or showing dominance, it is about figuring out what they want, and providing it to them. Yes there are women who enjoy being tied up, and women who like being dominated, but you have to figure out if that is something that the woman you are dealing with is interested in specifically. Sex, like relationships ,are not a one-size-fits-all kind of deal. You have to pay attention and (re)act accordingly.

Also, if you are asking questions like these, you really do not need to take your girl to the club. She will get taken off of your hands while you are trying to figure this stuff out.

 

[RedBear]

Setting the right frame in the beginning means that you are or appear, genuine, consistent and *insert manly adjective here* when you are together. As you know, sex for girls starts way before the bedroom... when you first meet. It's all in the head.
Don't do bondage on the first date.

 

[exhausted]

I am watching RSD shift and Julien says that the first time you have sex it has to be the best and kinky so it is set in the beginning how sex will be. Can i show the girl and have her use bondage set and all that too or is that too much and just do sex and try to make her squirt?

Also he said if you want a wingwomen after you have sex with her. Take her to the club and tell her that i do see us as potential down the road but right now we need to explore with each other. I doubt this works what do you guys think?

How do you know its ok to do these with any girl without her freaking out or being weird.

That is completely false in every way. The more you are together the more you grow and learn about one another. You also build a connection over time and sex should get better as time goes on.