Setting a date a week before... good? bad? meh?

[BannedGod]

there's this chick that's currently showering me with attention, and I wanna ask her out but I can't until next weekend, but I still wanna ask her because I already see the intensity of her IL going down. She's been at it for a week and a half but I've been so busy lately. So if I ask her out tomorrow, but for next weekend (only time I'm available during next week) would it be ok? or will I look like a total idiot?

 

[Phyzzle]

It's perfectly fine.

It only seems weird to you since I'm guessing you're college-aged, and you're used to calling people up and saying hey come over. Out in the real world people are busy; they have day planners and crap.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Yeah, I do it all the time. Just make sure that you let her know that you aren't just blowing her off; that you are genuinely busy but looking forward to getting together with her.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Perfect timing. Women actually like all kinds of notice before their "dates". The date itself is just a fraction of the whole experience for her. If she is interested in you, she will think about it, analyze it, tell her friends, anticipate, go shop for the right outfit(s), get herself ready, etc. She will then go through the easiest part, the date itself, then she will analyze it, tell everyone again, and try to figure out where she stands with you.

 

[Ken785]

if its a new girl make sure you keep in contact up to the date though...ive had plenty of girls flake on me because i didnt do that...first call is to set up a date and keep it short, but if you set up a date for next week...theyll eventually lose interest if you dont keep in contact....anyone else experience this?

 

[Phyzzle]

theyll eventually lose interest if you dont keep in contact....anyone else experience this?

No, not me.

Whenever I make a date a week from then, they do show up. I've never been outright stood up.

Seems like when you send a text just before "are we still on for tomorrow?", she's quite likely to say "come to think of it, no." Happens a lot to guys here.