i agree with the patience part. it's kind of funny to me b/c i see her for what she is. i shoot and direct porn on the weekends, so anytime in my head where an image of her may be on the pedestal i just think "look at these *****es, what am i going to do...date her for four weeks just to find out she likes licking my balls"?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Set-Up With Serial Dater
- Thread starter Disco
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
You are doing exactly as I would. Especially now that you are pulling back, becomming less interested/available. less is more at this stage. Stay aloof, and unimpressed.
She's like the old cars with the poor carberators. You have to feather the gas pedal, slowly feeding the gas. Too much gas floods it, and not enough gas, and it stalls out. The right amount of feathering... and she's sucking up the gas, and putting out the horsepower!
If not, it was good practice, and also some fun.
She's like the old cars with the poor carberators. You have to feather the gas pedal, slowly feeding the gas. Too much gas floods it, and not enough gas, and it stalls out. The right amount of feathering... and she's sucking up the gas, and putting out the horsepower!
If not, it was good practice, and also some fun.
Yesterday I stepped away from whatever I was doing here. It was by far the dumbest conversation I've ever had with any broad...and I've had some dumb ones. This is so far above dumb that I don't even know what to call it.
1) She said I was trying to manipulate her with our outing b/c it was "so her" and perfect.
I only replied with, "that's a very self centered way to look at things. of course i would like to **** you, but that's off the top. i planned a day...gave you my time...my effort b/c I wanted to. you and i both know you are oddly cute, but I wanted to see what else you were bringing to the table".
now that's not the dumbest part. the dumbest part is this. my eyes are hazel and in the right light will appear to be blue.
2) she accused me of wearing contacts b/c she's never seen blue eyes and brown hair. she said if i'd lie about that, i'd lie about anything. my only reply was "that's so retarded that i have no reply. you are looking for a reason not to like me and that's the best...THE BEST...you can come up with? wake up and recognize your defense mechanism."
then she said something sarcastic about us talking and i told her to slow down and drop the sarcasm and ego for a minute. "are you telling me if i disappeared it wouldn't bother you at all?". her reply was "people come and go all the time, it is life". i told her she was a sad person posing as happy and has become to used to playing the roll of "serial dater" and her game is sadder than 40 year olds at a bar...followed by the word "done" and then I hung up.
i don't think i was being a *****, just can't put the smallest drop of energy into this now. i'm the prize here, not her.
1) She said I was trying to manipulate her with our outing b/c it was "so her" and perfect.
I only replied with, "that's a very self centered way to look at things. of course i would like to **** you, but that's off the top. i planned a day...gave you my time...my effort b/c I wanted to. you and i both know you are oddly cute, but I wanted to see what else you were bringing to the table".
now that's not the dumbest part. the dumbest part is this. my eyes are hazel and in the right light will appear to be blue.
2) she accused me of wearing contacts b/c she's never seen blue eyes and brown hair. she said if i'd lie about that, i'd lie about anything. my only reply was "that's so retarded that i have no reply. you are looking for a reason not to like me and that's the best...THE BEST...you can come up with? wake up and recognize your defense mechanism."
then she said something sarcastic about us talking and i told her to slow down and drop the sarcasm and ego for a minute. "are you telling me if i disappeared it wouldn't bother you at all?". her reply was "people come and go all the time, it is life". i told her she was a sad person posing as happy and has become to used to playing the roll of "serial dater" and her game is sadder than 40 year olds at a bar...followed by the word "done" and then I hung up.
i don't think i was being a *****, just can't put the smallest drop of energy into this now. i'm the prize here, not her.
Sometimes you will meet a self-centered person that cannot be persuaded by you no matter what. Live and learnDisco said:
P.S. Next time you cut contact just ignore the person - don't let her see that you are mad. In time you will became immune when you dump somebody.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
