Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Seriously? WTF

mtlwlu

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So I just got a text from my girlfriend (ex)

Hey _______ Ive been thinking and I dont think I can trust myself tonight, Im not a relationship type of girl. We need to be friends longer first and then go from there, I dont want to hurt you because I know what its like to be hurt.

so shes pretty much telling me since we're not spending new years together (school holiday break) that she cant trust herself at a bar in Toronto.

I have made a new years resolution right now, dont get into a relationship period. just **** em. In and out like a fastfood restaurant.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Warrior74

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LOL. The I'm gonna fvck a random dood disclaimer. Just make sure you wrap it up with her in the future. She gave you fair warning.
 

mtlwlu

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Seriously, she basically told me shes a hoe lol.
 

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I wouldn't even give her the satisfaction of a response.

You dodged a bullet though man. Don't fret, this is actually a good thing. You don't want to date someone like that.
 

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lol I'm sorry but females can be ****ing stupid.

Guys don't do **** like this... I mean wtf.

She should have done whatever she wanted and THEN told you. Instead she wants to have guilt-free sex - by making you feel like **** before she bangs some guy.

You see what I'm saying?

'If I don't tell _______ before I **** around I will feel guilty <:( '

Instead of

'If I **** around I will feel guilty <:('

God I love it. Reminds me of the other thread, "I ****ed a random stranger in the bathroom - I'm SUCH A VICTIM!"

Assbackwards.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mtlwlu

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and she thinks we'll get back together, how the hell can I trust her, brutal. Oh well, luckily schools starting again soon, new numbers new contacts.
 

shaunuk

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Heh, don't get back together with her, don't date her again. And consider yourself damn lucky you got shot of her before you invested any real emotion.

Get back out there mate and keep playing.
 

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Hmmm, I would just ignore those kind of comments. She might have been wanting some dramatic response from you that was going to be just like on TV and make her realize how in lvoe with you she is blahblah blah, relationships are overrated anyway. I tend to just ignore those appeals to the dramatic and go on business as usual. I would still hook up with her, I just wouldn't give any response to those kinds of statements.
 

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You just discovered that she ain't worth it.

Back to the field you go!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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CP3WOO

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She did that over a text?! Wow, that's pretty low and cold blooded. She didn't have the balls to even call you. I would've said, "You know ____, I was just about to call you and say, "I don't think I can trust you out in Toronto," you beat me to the punch. Well truth be told baby, I can't be trusted either. I saw this hot piece of @ss at the store the other day and thought "How cool would it be to stick my face between those tatas and motor boat her." ___, I kinda wish you would've told me sooner cause maybe I actually could've motor boated her. I mean, she was eye fvcking the sh!t out of me on the cereal isle. Well, ___ it's been nice knowing you. Peace be with you and have a blessed day"

Or something like that
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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