"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Seriously What Happened ? A RETURN TO DARKNESS

WhatHappened2me

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I could make this thread 30 pages long, but I'll keep it quick and simple and just plead with the mature/grown men to help me out...

Flashback:

2 years ago, I'm basically a pimp. Not really fvcking every girl or getting girl, but my confidence is high and lets just say i did friggin well for myself, maybe not as good as the best or some of you, but i was satisfied with my pimpin abilities and the women I had interested and hooked up with...

Flashback:

1 year ago, met one of the girls i was dating and got into a LTR. Been very good and i'm happy with no real regrets, she's amazing. Been together for about 1 year now this April. No real complaints except the usual, miss the old game like everyone... no real wants to go back, but just regular loving what you don't have type crap... human nature stuff...

Current:
Still happy, but what has happened to my pimpin abilities... seriously !!! I lie to you guys not, I couldn't get a girl interested even if I tried and 95% of the problem is that I don't even try.... I'm not talking about anything serious or hooking up i just mean generally having a girl like me like they used to...

It's like the 'magic' is gone ?? I go out and have ZERO desire to talk to women, I feel intimidated by them, like i look at them and i'm like, "damn she's too hot, wow, wow" like when I was an AFC (a LONG time ago) These crazy thoughts are back, I can't bring myself to approach anyone... it's like i'm a shell of the person I used to be....

So help me out please, i'm not looking to cheat but just to be fvcking personable again... it's like i've become a hermit... i've never really been crazy outgoing, but now i'm just a zombie and afraid to talk to women again. Well not AFRAID... i don't get nervous, its just a lack of desire... a lack of confidence because i seriously wouldn't know what to say...

Just some help about getting back on track, not with GETTING women, but being the kind of man a woman wants!!! I'm even starting to piss my gf off because i've been a tad down and lacking wanting to go out... she wouldn't leave me so no problem there, but damnnn help me be who i was !!!


PLEASE HELP



-WhatTHeFVCK happened to ME
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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woods

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Good for you for nipping this in the bud. The fact is, if you dont go back to your more "manly" ways, she might leave and/or cheat, no matter how great you guys are together.

Just some help about getting back on track, not with GETTING women, but being the kind of man a woman wants!!! I'm even starting to piss my gf off because i've been a tad down and lacking wanting to go out... she wouldn't leave me so no problem there, but damnnn help me be who i was !!!

You said right there, that your GF even wants you to. Trust me, it will escalate, and turn her off. You're lucky! Start on this today.

Read the Book of Pook, in the DJ bible (scroll to the bottom of the page, if you dont know) and dont forget your a man, and that is what your girl likes about you, so dont let either of you down.
 

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sounds like you have low testosterone levels. go get some blood tests buddy, this happened to a friend of mine a few years back. i nkow it sounds funny but i am serious.

good luck
 

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docv said:
sounds like you have low testosterone levels. go get some blood tests buddy, this happened to a friend of mine a few years back. i nkow it sounds funny but i am serious.

good luck
What do you do about that, besides work out? I wonder about myself, after reading some of this.
 
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