You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You have seen right my friend. Thank you for the advice.. I am not sure if I am ready for sex and she has been so good with me so far that I don't think it would be a problem for her but I just don't want to go too fast.. I really like her a lot and I want this to work out well.AlphaGhost said:OP, Make a move before its too late. Your probably extremely shy because this girl is making all the moves and it seems like your a virgin. Look past that, you have established a weak frame with this girl already and by the way she is with you you can tell she is experienced. She is doing all the things that a normal guy would automatically go for sex.
You don't want to pedalize ever! Which is what your doing now, but since you have no experience, guess you gotta go thru it once
So I spent the night at her place Thursday and aftdr making out for long minutes, we went to her bed room and had passionate love making for about an hour and a half (preliminaries included). She really seemed to enjoy it very much, she told me right after "wooow, I should invite you more often... You actually made me dizzy"Sandow said:Ya, you have her. Now stop over thinking. No more posting until you have a good lay report![]()
Borealis...borealis said:So I spent the night at her place Thursday and aftdr making out for long minutes, we went to her bed room and had passionate love making for about an hour and a half (preliminaries included). She really seemed to enjoy it very much, she told me right after "wooow, I should invite you more often... You actually made me dizzy"
Then we went back to sleep and she couldn't stop kissing me so she got back on top of me to continue kissing and touching until she decided to stop before we do it again because I was waking up in a few hours for work.
She told me she loves being with me, she had a hard time letting me get out of the car to go to work. She also said her weekend would be so long without me (I will be out of town with friend). She texted me later that she wish she could cuddle with me in bed all morning.
Seriously, I have never experienced such intense feelings with another person, this is unbelievably amazing. Now I can't stop thinking about her and I can't wait to see her!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
he just can't be helped right now he's a AFC in loveHalfPUAHalfAFC said:Borealis...
First, congrats on the bang and with a chick that really seems to like you (so far and from the appearances of things).
Second, you are clearly inexperienced and naive. Go back and read the entire thread again. When you do, listen carefully to some of the warnings guys are giving you here. Don't become a cynic, just aware and cautious.
* She's in control. Either she'll grow to resent you for this or become a controlling manipulate shrew. You need to assert some decision-making and leadership.
* You've totally lost control of your feelings for this woman. This will usually lead to others seeing the situation more clearly than you. When problems arise, and they will, you may come to this board for advice. Listen to it carefully because guys here have been through a TON of crap with women and the experienced ones know of what they speak.
* Go to Chateau Hartiste. Read the 16 Commandments of Poon. Now.
* Do not overly fawn over or gush to this woman. It will work in the early stages but it will eventually push her away.
* Maintain some interests and hobbies outside of her. Be unavailable once in a while because you are mountain climbing, fishing, working out, whatever. She'll like you for it more. Become a man of substance.
* Keep in mind that in today's day and age, relationships rarely develop the way your's has. Women are fickle and demanding and will next a guy at the drop of a hat. Either your woman is extraordinary by today's standards, or she has an agenda, or is deeply damaged and has hidden it well. Guard your heart until you are 100% sure her motives are legit.
Good luck
Sonnyknight, you are correct. I was trying to give him some foreshadowing of what might be down the road.Sonny Knight said:he just can't be helped right now he's a AFC in love
his beginners luck will run out
he can't even closed the deal
he's suffering from new pvssy fever