"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Seriously need help??

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trans_am17

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Man I'm having so much trouble getting out of this AFC rut that I'm in. I've gone to the mall alot lately but I can't seem to bring myself to making an approach. I've read a bunch of stuff on this site but I'm still having trouble. This girl I had a fling with now won't answer my calls and won't call me back and I'm having trouble getting over her and moving on(manager's daughter). I now hate my job but can't find a better one. And I'm eith angry or depressed all the time. I need help bad.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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forget about the girl, grab your balls and pick up some babes. if you have to get a friend to come with you, that should up your confidence.

Oh and just stick with your job man, dont worry if it was the managers daughter
 
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Man I did feel like crap but then I bought some clothes at the mall. lol. Just today too. Just find something to do that doesn't involve girls. Like computers or video games. lol. That's what I do when I feel like crap. Just do something to make yourself look better.
 
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Well even though I really don't like my job I guess I'll just try to make the best of it until I find a better job. Also I hope I eventually find my balls and get around to making approaches ASAP.
 
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You don't necessarily have to get a girl to get over her and for goodness sakes, don't quit your job. Hang out with old friends, make new ones, and devote your time to doing other things for yourself.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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