"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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mll0016

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Here's the dilemma...
I am 19, my girlfriend is 18. I am currently in college at Oklahoma University right now. She has anticipated on going to UT her whole life. Her parents both went to UT, 2 of her brothers went to UT, and 2 of her sisters went to UT.
I was the ******* that convinced her to go to OU.
She signed the papers to attend OU yesterday.
And today, we got in a huge fight. i don't see it working out at all. I'm going to try as hard as I can to make it work though.
What the hell do I do??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My theory?

She regrets her decision and is projecting it on you. You can't change how she feels. Time will tell with this one. If you try and make her feel better it will only push her away. Stay back from her for a bit.
 

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too young to be in a relationship...........HAVE U SEEN ALL the chics in U.......why have one when U can have several.
 

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mll0016 said:
Here's the dilemma...
I am 19, my girlfriend is 18. I am currently in college at Oklahoma University right now. She has anticipated on going to UT her whole life. Her parents both went to UT, 2 of her brothers went to UT, and 2 of her sisters went to UT.
I was the ******* that convinced her to go to OU.
She signed the papers to attend OU yesterday.
And today, we got in a huge fight. i don't see it working out at all. I'm going to try as hard as I can to make it work though.
What the hell do I do??
There not enough info here to help you out.

You said that you two got into a fight today,but you didn't say about what.

Also,how is the history of the relationship;example:How long have you two been together? Have things been going well in the relationship up until the fight you two had today?


You can't just say,"I had a fight with my girlfriend. Help me".


You're telling us the outcome without going us any background.

It's hard to follow a movie when you walk in an hour and a half after it's already started.



Anyway,from what you have written,you've gotten yourself in a tight spot here. If basically this girl's whole family all went to UT,then she's going to want to go too. And it has nothing to do with the school itself,but to be a part of the tradition her family has with the school.


This could have the potential of breaking the relationship apart because to her "EMOTIONALLY" it's like separating her from her family.
And that's a losing battle.


That's why more info is needed from you.

It'd be hard to believe that everything was going fine and well with you two,then when this school situation came up,now everything is on the rocks.
 

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mll0016 said:
Here's the dilemma...
I am 19, my girlfriend is 18.
that is seriously all I read.

dude you are in the most important phase of your life. What you do for the next 5-10 years is what is going to determine how the rest of your life is going to play out.

she wants to play, you are probably going to college, go fvck some skanks and get plastered and leave this one and let her do her thing.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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