"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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serious question for you guys

mongoose01

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I need some input from you guys. I think I have some sort of obsessive compulsive disorder. It seems like when ever my GF doesn't call for a period of time, I get pressed. I then have this obsession to call her and see what's going on (like if she doesn't call me on her way to work). I'm usually the one calling. I vowed yesterday to stop doing it (calling all the time). I see her everyday and we have good times together (LTR).

I'm just wondering if I'm being to clingy or do I have some sort of disorder. Sometimes the stuff I read on this website is the exact things she does to me in the relationship (not too wussy, not calling all the time, different moods). What do you guys think.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

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dietzcoi

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You are getting played, she is the DJ and you are acting dangerously close to an AFC.

If you don't buck up, you will spend the rest of your life supplicating to her or another woman.

You already know this.. that is why you wrote to us and not Oprah or Dr. Phil.

I know it is difficult but at least you have us to give you strength. Many of us had no help.. thus the disasters in our AFC days.

Dietzcoi
 

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Originally posted by mongoose01
so what do you think i should do (especially in the immediate future).
Chill the fcuk out!


Seriously man you're spending more time worrying about what she's doing and what's going on in her life rather than yours.

I don't think its a disorder. Like most people in the world you're worrying about things that are out of your control. Some worry about the past. Some the future. Some their jobs, money, health, etc. Its sad really.

Focus your thoughts on what really matters. The present and yourself.
 

MrCode

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Get some hobbies man. Some interests that you love as much or more than your girl.

Living your life for a girl means you die a little when she leaves.

Sh*t that is a damn good quote (and I think I'll add it to my signature.)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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dockta

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How about, as soon as she leaves for work, leave your phone at home, and go for a run around the block for 30mins. This will be both good for your mind and your body!!
 

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Worrying is natural. But clingy isn't. Just remember: She's with you because she likes you, so don't worry.

Of course, if you start finding condoms in her purse or car, THEN it might be time to start worrying. :p

But seriously, lighten up. Play pool, excersice, and have a life.
 

mongoose01

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thanks dudes.

the thing that's funny i have alot of other activities that i do without her (i'm editing a no-budget movie that i shot-can you believe that), working out, teaching my daughter tennis. i'm not a complete loser, but you guys are right.

i'm gonna chill out.
 
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Originally posted by mongoose01
I see her everyday...
if you see her everyday then what is that you want? To see her every hour!! You are acting/thinking like a woman! :rolleyes:

This is not 'compulsive' behavior, this is being 'clingy' and needy - women hate this trait from a man!
 

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be carefull

dude. be carefull, you could end up pushing her into somebody elses arms... possibly even someone else you know and trust...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You need to reverse the situation and stop letting her be the one wearing the pants in this relationship. MAN UP!!! Kill that wussy, clingy, sh*t. It isn't attractive and it makes you look weak. If you keep up with that behavior I wouldn't be surprised if your next post is going to be titled, "Why did she cheat on me?"
 

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It could be a disorder. But even if it is, it can always be fixed.
 
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