"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i noticed that when i don't give a sh1t and i feel all crazy and funny, i get lots of fun and i'm extremely friendly and the center of attention (everyone wants to speak with me). anyway, after some time, people start disrespecting me and poke fun at me. i've learnt not to give a sh1t about it and it doesn't faze me, but anyway girls consider me dumb and i often get treated as a little child.

rather, when i don't feel really extrovert (sometimes, even if i'm in a really good mood), i'm silent and i'm not humorous and ****y/funny, i may have really less fun, but at least people don't try to disrespect me PLUS i get approached by lots of girls

what do you suggest that i should do?

would you rather go for fun and disrespect or pùssy and respect, but more boredom?

i know that i should always command respect, but a funny guy that commands respect is likely to be made fun of even more...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I know what you mean, and I feel exactly the same way. I just try and be myself but think before I speak or act, and make sure people are laughing with me and not at me.
 

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Get amazingly good at a sport or academic.

I met this kid who I thought was exactly how you describe yourself when being crazy. He was always the center of a attention, and he was hilarious. I thought he was just some dumb kid who screwed around all the time because he had nothing better to do. Then I found out from someone that he is like a pro track runner, and gets like 4.0's and stuff.

My perspective of him changed almost immedietaly and he went from being some kid jumping off walls because he had ADD, to being someone who was hilarious, but also takes life seriously. I tell other people about him who don't know him very well and they get the same reaction. So everyone who knows him well respects him a lot. The chicks also dig him too, because high school girls love successful, off-the-wall guys.
 

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Originally posted by Ride26
Get amazingly good at a sport or academic.

I met this kid who I thought was exactly how you describe yourself when being crazy. He was always the center of a attention, and he was hilarious. I thought he was just some dumb kid who screwed around all the time because he had nothing better to do. Then I found out from someone that he is like a pro track runner, and gets like 4.0's and stuff.

My perspective of him changed almost immedietaly and he went from being some kid jumping off walls because he had ADD, to being someone who was hilarious, but also takes life seriously. I tell other people about him who don't know him very well and they get the same reaction. So everyone who knows him well respects him a lot. The chicks also dig him too, because high school girls love successful, off-the-wall guys.
the fact is... i'm pretty good at basketball, at soccer, at cycling, at school, i've got a more beautiful than average body, i've got better grades than average... everything is more than average, but there is nothing i excel into... usually, people who are pretty good in everything but don't excel in anything are respected just when they are silent guys, otherwise they usually are made fun of... do you agree with me?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by Jay-X
the fact is... i'm pretty good at basketball, at soccer, at cycling, at school, i've got a more beautiful than average body, i've got better grades than average... everything is more than average, but there is nothing i excel into... usually, people who are pretty good in everything but don't excel in anything are respected just when they are silent guys, otherwise they usually are made fun of... do you agree with me?
I disagree.

It's not good to be a silent guy. Silent guys don't get any respect or any disrespect.... they are just silent guys. Nobody knows them, nobody cares.

I think that you should act however you want. Being unique is almost always a good attribute. That is why I suggested to "excel" in something positive so that people can recognize your good attributes.

Also if people are laughing then that is almost always a good sign. But give or take, if you're sticking forks up your ass to make people laugh, then I'd say you stepped over the line. I'm not sure exactly what you act like when your feeling crazy. But are you being funny or being a freak?

If it's just a few jerk-offs saying some comments you don't like, then make it known that you don't like it. Don't be a wimp about it, but don't be an ass about it either. Just be like "Dude, what's your problem?" Then carry on like normal.
 

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Originally posted by Ride26
I disagree.

It's not good to be a silent guy. Silent guys don't get any respect or any disrespect.... they are just silent guys. Nobody knows them, nobody cares.
You are an idiot.
 

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Originally posted by oakraiderz2
You are an idiot.
Why? If you dont talk to anybody then not many people will be talking to you.
 

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Originally posted by oakraiderz2
You are an idiot.
why is he an idiot? no one cares about silent guys, because no one KNOWS THEM. true story
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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