"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alrightt so I have a situation I need some serious help with. First off there was this girl, let's call her Celine, and I became friends with benefits 3 months ago. She caught feelings and I broke it because I didn't want to have anything with her. Now I like this other girl, Angel, but it turns out that she is Celine's best friend. Angel won't date me right now because Celine is legitimately in love with me. So I had a plan to ask Celine for her permission to date Angel, but I don't know if it's a good idea or not..help??
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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God, you beat me to it Hanni. Is Sosuave updated directly to your phone or something?

There is no such thing as a female 'friend' with benefits. You might have male friends with benefits like if I were hanni's friend, I would consider his knowledge about guns and combat tactics a benefit... what benefit can a woman offer you as a friend??? NOTHING.

FRIENDS DO NOT HAVE SEX
 
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some women offer bennies. Mine certainly does! but such a case IS rare. I hunted for her for over 25 years, basically, and had to go overseas to find her. Even in Phills, she's a very rare case. Tough as nails.
 
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Your wife offers you a benefit but that's cause you are family. I'm sure she would go down fighting for you if she's from the Ph. Asian women make great wives for that reason. As a friend she wouldn't have offered you the same, even though phills are good people its a completely different dynamic when you are in the family.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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well, I DID save her entire family from starvation, but she had given up a great job to be with me, after we'd known each other just 2 weeks. Her boss was giving her a fine home, and paying her the equivalent of 5k per month (of US job) I never asked if he was doing her. Probably was, but I dont need to know! :) She's 35 years my junior, but because her daughter is such a handful, I believe she'll stick around for 12 years, not just 5-6 as is often the case.
 
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