Seperate from the other guys.

[Crazy Asian]

Every hot girl has multiple guys after her.
How do I separate myself from those other guys?
How do I appear better than them?

First of all, i know that i'm better than them. I have a lot more going on in my life than they do. I can lift more, i'm smarter, and I have more skills. I know this question is something that I can answer myself, but i just need some reassurance.

Just what are things that won't make me seem like any other guy?
thanks.

 

[reset]

If you know "you're better than them", then why do you still see them as competiton?

How can you ask to "appear" better than them... if you're already better than them? If you're already better than them wouldn't you appear that way?

Why do you have to be "better than them" to begin with? Why does one man's life affect yours?

Why can't they be the best them and you the best you?

 

[Vice]

Every hot girl has multiple guys after her.
How do I separate myself from those other guys?
How do I appear better than them?

First of all, i know that i'm better than them. I have a lot more going on in my life than they do. I can lift more, i'm smarter, and I have more skills. I know this question is something that I can answer myself, but i just need some reassurance.

Just what are things that won't make me seem like any other guy?
thanks.

Being able to lift more means absolutely nothing. Same with being smart and having skills.

That's all good if you want a job or career, but you may notice that other people with all of that stuff may have more or less women than other guys.

You want to set yourself apart with your personality. Don't be needy. Pretend this girl is just a new friend you're meeting, not a potential girlfriend! Use her as the main subject of conversation. When you see that she's in a good mood when you're talking to her, leave her. That way she'll remember the good feelings she had next time she sees you and she'll come running back to you!

 

[nismo-4]

You want to set yourself apart with your personality. Don't be needy. Pretend this girl is just a new friend you're meeting, not a potential girlfriend! Use her as the main subject of conversation. When you see that she's in a good mood when you're talking to her, leave her. That way she'll remember the good feelings she had next time she sees you and she'll come running back to you!

That sh*t doesn't usually work. It gets you dropped in the friend zone quickly. Women don't make moves on men unless they're rich. You can wear a Gucci suit to set yourself apart. BTW in clubs/bars, the odds are not in your favor if you're an Average Joe. I'd go in the club with a couple of other guys. Going alone will get you eaten alive unless you stay in the same spot.

I'd spit mad game and get the number then run off.

 

[MooseGod]

Do you have a personality? Do people still have those or are they largely a thing of the past?

At the risk of sounding like a kindergarten teacher, you are different because you are YOU. What set you apart from all of the other little kids (sp?) in that classroom before you had any inkling of the bullsh!t society feeds you?

People are going to try to tell you how to live your whole life. That's fine, if you want an ordinary life...Steady (read:boring) job, wife, 2.5 kids, white picket fences, minivan, church every Sunday, etc. Is this what you want for yourself?

If you want an extraordinary life, you've got to go the extra mile. Don't do anything half-assed. Make your steely gaze and rock-solid determination set you apart from those little boys trying in vain to compete for her attention.

 

[Outsider]

This is a joke right?

 

[The Deacon]

Attraction isn't a choice, Crazy_Asian. Even if the girl has lots of options, it doesn't mean she can't possibly be attracted to you. Don't worry so much about appearing different from the other guys but appearing attractive altogether. The most important way to generate attraction in this type of girl is to appear completely undaunted by the other male competition as you game her. I'm including all male competition, especially AMOGs.

Don't get LJBF'd, just game her, wait for some IOIs and ask her out (I prefer the old-school "dating" thing, apparently some people on this board don't).

 

[ChrizZ]

here is how you do it:

Ask yourself WHY would any woman want to date you?

The next step is to stand out from the crowd.

Take all your tennis shoes and jeans and burn them.

Watch Oceans 11. That's how you will dress from now on.

If you want to get the hottest chicks having a body that is in top shape is a must. By that I mean six pack abs etc.

Get a haircut that makes you look cool and masculine and try growing facial hair if it suits you.

I hate to say it, but unless you have achieved the above mentioned you have to take what you can get for now.

Nomatter what you say or do. If she doesn't think you are sexually attractive to her she will never sleep with you. Ever.

The whole process will take 1 or more years, but it's worth it.

 

[Sandow]

Attraction isn't a choice, Crazy_Asian. Even if the girl has lots of options, it doesn't mean she can't possibly be attracted to you. Don't worry so much about appearing different from the other guys but appearing attractive altogether. The most important way to generate attraction in this type of girl is to appear completely undaunted by the other male competition as you game her. I'm including all male competition, especially AMOGs.

Don't get LJBF'd, just game her, wait for some IOIs and ask her out (I prefer the old-school "dating" thing, apparently some people on this board don't).

Attraction isn't a choice, but preference is. We're all attracted to different kinds of qualities according to our personalities/preferences. Attraction isn't a universal blue print (as much as I wish it were).

Don't blindly listen to whatever's out there. Heh-um... David Deangelo. Good Sales technique tho.

 

[JackBauer24]

I used to think like this, but the fact is, different women want different things. True, being really physically attractive will get you more initial looks from women, but for girls, physical attraction doesn't necessarily equal interest. Interest = Attraction.

Consider these examples. My brother gets checked out by women of all ages whereever he goes. He could be wearing ripped jeans, a t-shirt, and not comb his hair (btw he's thin and not muscular at all) and he gets more looks from women in a day than most of you get in a year. When he gets dressed up and combs his hair, he gets about the same amount of looks. What does that tell you? How you dress is irrelevant. You either look good or you don't.

He got this girl's number who was obviously physically attracted to him. He calls her up a few times, she never answers. A few months later, we see her at the mall with this fat, poorly dressed, really ugly guy with bad posture, an "anti-DJ."

The point being, she was attracted to my brother, but she was interested for some reason in the fat guy. My brother was probably low on the priority list. He was good enough to get her number, but he wasn't in her immediate social circle. The fat guy, regardless of whether or not he was banging her, was probably in her circle.

The girl's individual taste and/or social proof is what gets you women. You can get ONS with looks, but if you want a gf, even a hot gf, her taste and how well she think she knows you is more important than looking like Brad Pitt.

I was talking to a girl last week on myspace and asked her why she's going out with her bf given that she's much better looking than him and could obviously do better. She says people tell her that a lot but she doesn't care about his looks and is a personality first girl.

Is this all women? Of course not. Some are shallow, want a really good looking bf with a lot of money. But it's a case by case basis.

 

[JackBauer24]

Btw, I'm not saying be the fat, poorly dressed, really ugly guy with bad posture. If that's you, losing weight, doing what you can about your face, and improving your posture will make you more physically attractive to women, but what I'm saying is not all girls pay as much attention to looks as guys do when it comes to relationships.

 

[ChrizZ]

Btw, I'm not saying be the fat, poorly dressed, really ugly guy with bad posture. If that's you, losing weight and doing what you can about your face, and improving your posture will make you more physically attractive to women, but what I'm saying is girls don't pay as much attention to looks as guys do when it comes to relationships.

It's not about looking hot for some skinny 100pds blonde in a bar. Dressing well, being well groomed and working out is all about respecting yourself.

You have to look like a person that is going somewhere in life.

Once you respect yourself and your body people will respect you and women will drool over you.

 

[JackBauer24]

"It's not about looking hot for some skinny 100pds blonde in a bar. Dressing well, being well groomed and working out is all about respecting yourself.

You have to look like a person that is going somewhere in life."

Agreed. Self-respect is something you want to have anyway, regardless of women. But if you want a ONS with the 100pd blonde at the bar, being a well-groomed average to below average looking guy with self-respect isn't going to get you laid, unless you happen to be "her type" physically.

 

[ChrizZ]

"It's not about looking hot for some skinny 100pds blonde in a bar. Dressing well, being well groomed and working out is all about respecting yourself.

You have to look like a person that is going somewhere in life."

Agreed. Self-respect is something you want to have anyway, regardless of women. But if you want a ONS with the 100pd blonde at the bar, being a well-groomed average to below average looking guy with self-respect isn't going to get you laid, unless you happen to be "her type" physically.

Exactly.

No matter who you are it is impossible to be attractive to every woman out there. That's why women give you clues if they are interested even before you open your mouth.

However how many average to below average looking guys do you know that have six pack abs and dress in Armani suits?

 

[JackBauer24]

Six-pack abs, average face, you're probably above average looking in the eyes of women. Kind of like a thin girl with an big boobs and an average face is attractive to some guys including myself.

Btw, we're on the same page. All I was saying is that for relationships, there are other factors that are more important than looks and how you dress. It really comes down to her and what she looks for in a guy.

 

[ChrizZ]

If you have six-pack abs, chances are you're not physically ugly unless you have an unusually bad looking face, which is possible I guess. I knew a guy in high school that had a 6 pack and even the ugliest and fattest girls wanted nothing to do with him because of his face.

Six-pack abs, average face, you're probably above average looking in the eyes of women. Kind of like a thin girl with an big boobs and an average face is attractive to some guys including myself.

I'm not saying that if you have a six packs abs chicks will chase you like in an AXE commercial.

What did that guy dress like?

What did he have going on for him?

I hate to say it, but looks ARE important. If you are ugly the pool of women that will find you attractive IS narrowed down. However there is always something you can do to make yourself more attractive. If nothing helps there is always plastic surgery.

By making yourself an overall more attractive person, not only will your looks increase, but also your inner game which is also very important.

 

[JackBauer24]

What did that guy dress like?

What did he have going on for him?

He dressed regular. Nothing bad but nothing good either. He was in National Honors Society and probably makes a lot of money now. He probably has some good job where he's financially secure but gets made fun of by co-workers without him even realizing it.

 

[ChrizZ]

He dressed regular. Nothing bad but nothing good either. He was in National Honors Society and probably makes a lot of money now. He probably has some good job where he's financially secure but gets made fun of by co-workers without him even realizing it.

Then he is a beta male with a six pack abs. Not attractive to women.

However he has money, a form of power. He shouldn't have trouble getting chicks now.

 

[AfRoSwiss-Disiac]

Then he is a beta male with a six pack abs. Not attractive to women.

However he has money, a form of power. He shouldn't have trouble getting chicks now.

WHOA WHOA WHOA there
i thought we are talking about being a DJ not aman*****
A DJ is the person who has a attractivet GF but being a Dj is not all about bieng a manWh0re..Damn havent you guys read anything. Being a DJ is about being yourself not being somehting your not by fronting like you have money just dress well and like said above show that your going somewhere in life. Alot of guys take this DJ thing to a whole nother level of being a manWh0re..Dogging women and being concerned about how many women you have.,..thats not confidence thats insecurity


Dont you dare correct my spelling or grammar this isnt a fvucking english class

 

[Sandow]

A DJ is the person who has a attractivet...

I believe it's spelled "an attractive...":yes: