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Sending blatantly sexual texts to a girl you are unsure of in terms of interst level

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What do you guys think about texts that are blatantly sexual to see if a girl is interested.

Like sending a text to girl that you are unsure about her interest level, but have gone on a date with..

For example.

"We should make out"

Something along those lines. Just to speed things up. And for guys that are sh*t at initiating sexual contact
 

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So it's a bad idea... Okay.

I figured it would come accross as a bold move. But I guess creepy is probably the girls first interpretation.
 

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Have gone on a date with but are unsure of interest level? I dont get it.

That sounds like a better opener in a bar or on online dating, for a stranger. Seems a bit gay/unnecessary if you've already been out on a date with them.
 

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narcissist said:
So it's a bad idea... Okay.

I figured it would come accross as a bold move. But I guess creepy is probably the girls first interpretation.
I actually think it's the opposite of bold move. It's a really weak move.
You never ask if you should make out. You just start making out without saying a word. But before you do, you have to read her interest level to make sure she will be receptive, this is a skill which takes a while to develop.
 

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Okay we all agree that it's stupid/weak move.

How should I speed things up by text.

I should let you guys know that i know she's interested because she keeps initiating text convo, is responsive to date set ups, and has been on 2 dates with me.

And if im supposed to initiate make out in person, how should I do it in a smooth way?

PS: I know these seem like noob questions but im going back to the basics to refine my skills.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Women respond best to covert communications, to hints or slightly veiled comments that could be flirty but also may not be. They love to be kept guessing. They usually hate overt statements. It seems very course and amateurish to them.

I give you credit, OP, for an experimental spirit.
 

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I don't think you should ever send those types of texts even if she is interested. You show and prove in person. If you do, then you're just revealing your cards towards her and she'll know what you're trying to get from her while giving away your mysterious vibes.
 

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If you're acting like a man she knows what you want without being overt about it. Best just take it slow... She'll let you know when she's ready.... patience.
 

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Everybody that posted is correct. Be underhanded when flirting. Girls are emotional, not logical. Get her emotions pumping and she'll understand your innuendo.

For instance: A better text would be: I was thinking about when you looked over your shoulder tonight, and I caught a glimpse of your neck.

Her: What about it.

You: Nothing, nevermind.
 

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wow good thread because I am literally messaging this girl who seems interested but not sure, about the same situation as you. Pft, ill send her the "lets make out" message and see what happens.
 

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For me atomsmasher and salinechow are bang on the money with theyre posts

Such a bold statement such as “lets make out “ would dry her up
Theres too much logic in it

The problem we have as men is that we only think logically

So communicating mysteriously and sexually at the same time is an art that must be mastered

Try something out of the blue like “hey are you a good kisser ?”

It will tell her your thinking about kissing her and she will also be wondering why you’re asking
 

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narcissist said:
What do you guys think about texts that are blatantly sexual to see if a girl is interested.

Like sending a text to girl that you are unsure about her interest level, but have gone on a date with..

For example.

"We should make out"

Something along those lines. Just to speed things up.
LOL.

Translation: I'm horny, I have 0 game, you are just good for sex, move it!
 

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GOLD ^^^

i would be tempted to drag the suspense out even further than that though :cool:
 
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